[so-empty]

I am writing a letter to the adoptive parants of my baby she will be with them in a veiw days now and I don't know what to say it will be an open adoption to a point they will send letters and picture i will send letters and when she is old enough if she wants to we will meet each other.... there are so many things i want to say i want them to know how much i love her and I want to tell them to always love her and to spoil her and to keep her safe and to always let he rknow how much they love her and to pleas enot let her think I didnt want her becuase there is nothing i want more but I dont want to make them mad or make them think i may try to inturopt their paranting in anyway .. and I just dont know how to write it all out can anyone help

[tlmerrie]

Have you thought about tape recording it, or making a video recording instead? Would that make it easier? If your adoption is open, you will be able to clarify your thoughts later. Until then, what you just said in your post sounds right.

Amy

[Leigh131313]

Oh gosh...what a hard letter to write! I've never had to write such a letter...but here are some thoughts.

Maybe first, write down all of your thoughts in point form. This way you can make sure you say all that you want to say.

Now, just sit and write from your heart. I know that is very vague and easier said than done...but really, you are the only one who can say what to write.

I know there are people who have been in similar shoes, perhaps they can give you better advice.


Good luck!


This letter will be treasured.

[kune]

so-empty
I never had the opportunity to write a letter and so I believe that what you write should be from the heart. This is something that the aparents will keep and pass on to your daughter at the appropriate time. Tell it how it is. Your hopes and your wishes and how much you love her and anything else you want daughter or aparents to know.

((Hugs)) to you - this is a really difficult time for you and I hope you have good support systems to help you move through this.

Ann

[connersmom]

Does it have to just be one letter? Our daughter's birthmom writes things to us as they come to her and we save each one for our daughters. If it open, you could write what it on your heart now, and then add to it as you are led to. Having to sit down and write one long letter all at once can be a little overwhelming.