[susieloo]

These posts bring me to tears people.
I remember reading a Book on the History of Adoption in New Zealnd. It stated that it wasn't uncommon for birthmothers to buy buy buy for there new found child. After our reunion, I just loved to buy her wee parcels. She was a student at University so appreciated the odd magazine and other such treats...and boy did I love doing it.
when my next 17yr old daughter went to University, (4 hours away,) I have made sure to do the same for her!!

[Rylee45]

Wow, that's quite a question.

There wasn't and still isn't a year go by that I don't think of my daughter on her birthday. Every year on her birthday I'd be depressed and angry because I wasn't with her and it would remind me that I had to give her up by no choice of my own.

I will never forget her birthday. On her 18th birthday I was expecting to be able to find her.

I contacted the agency because I was told when I gave her up that I could get her information when she was 18 and she could get mine if she wanted to.

That didn't happen. They wouldn't give me any information. And they hadn't any plans to do that when she was 18. We didin't meet until she was 21.

So, yes I have to say, I did remember her birthday. I wished her a happy birthday every year in a journal I wrote to her.

I have always and will always love her!

Rylee

[MrsHoot]

I remember her birthday every year, that day has always beenone of the hardest days out of the year to get through...

I can remember on particular year that I was horribly depressed and very worried about her, spent most of that day in tears...when we reunited a few years later(via email) she shared with me that she almost died a few years before, on her birthday - she was in a terrible car accident in a snow storm...I am the only one who knows that it was the same year...very weird indeed

This past Jan. was her 22nd birthday and it was the first time that I was able to send her a present...but I look forward to the day when I can share that day with her - in person.

[lilraskels]

I want to know the same question. I am the mother of four of which three are adopted and I am curious if their parents remember their birthdays. I have had 23 foster children and many of them if they stayed more than two weeks I know their birthdays still.
If I found out that the birth mother did not know the birthdays then I would be upset that it would seem like the child did not mean much to them

[BrandyHagz]

It is not uncommon for people to forget or even block traumatic events.

How sad that people assume they don't care because of that.

I'm sure glad my daughters gets it