[browneyes0707]

Most of you know I struggle with trying to rebuild my realtionship with my DD's a mom after a long lapse in contact. And after all my insecurity and trying to navigate and figure out this contact thing, today it all clicked! I had sent an update, and got a message back the next day. And as I read the first line, I could tell she was happy to get my message. It was a quick update, promising to write more when she had time. And it suddenly dawned on me that she really is trying. Not that I doubted it before, but with the fear and insecurity that taking a risk in an emotionally charged situation can produce, there's that paranoia that maybe the other person isn't sincere. Or they are just too busy or can't care enough to try harder. When I look back on the past 10 months, did I always get answers? No. Did I always get responses? No. But it was never intentionally done to hurt me or hinder a relationship. There was never a time that she lied, never a time where she turned her back on me, never a time that she has been uncaring. Every message I did get was heartfelt and sincere. I think I always knew that. But for whatever reason, I couldn't see that 100% until today.

Is there a chance she wont follow up? Wouldn't be the first time Will it get to me? Maybe, but only so I can post a message so I can use this

But I have to count my blessings. She may not always come throught the way I expect her too, but in my heart I know she cares, probably more than I will ever know. I see now, more than ever, that it may be slow go, and it's not there yet but it's going!

I just wanted to share that with all of you, especially those who are waiting who do get frustrated with contact. (both a moms and b moms alike!) Sometimes it just takes some time for things to fall into place

[SchmennaLeigh]

That's a great realization to have. (And to share.)

I'm very happy for you.

[kakuehl]

I'm glad things fell into place for you. (Don't you love those aha! moments?)

[Tigger27]

YAY!!! I'm so happy for you !!!

[taramayrn]

Wow Brown! What a breakthrough for your relationship. I wonder what made it "click" for her? Whatever it is I am so happy for you.

((((HUGS)))))

[InBlindFaith]

Yay Brown!!! You know we will always be here for you!!

(((HUGS)))

[josh1788smom]

That is the best. I am so happy for you.

[browneyes0707]

Originally Posted by taramayrn

Wow Brown! What a breakthrough for your relationship. I wonder what made it "click" for her? Whatever it is I am so happy for you.

((((HUGS)))))

I think it always clicked for her. Funny thing, I don't know why it never clicked for ME, LOL I was just too terrified of something being (or going) wrong that I never saw beyond that to realize that she was trying her best. I was focusing too much on what WASN'T being said that I wasn't really getting what WAS, KWIM?

Thanks guys I really don't think I would have gotten there without ya!

[quantum]

Now where are those pesky dancing bananas???



Ahh, that's better.

Hey! What is WITH us! and our insecurities...
I am often reading waaaay more into bson's emails, waiting for him to cut it off...Why is the 'hey you're stuck with me' so much harder to believe??

Let this be a lesson to us! Believe in the POSITIVE!!! (ok we can try, right??).