[mom2justynsarah]

My daughter's birtmom was (still is) married with three children when she got pregnant with my daughter. They were homeless, pennyless and had a history of major drug abuse.

There was just no way they could take care of a fourth child. Plus, they had Social workers from the state of California threatening to remove all of their children.

I know for a fact that Dee chose adoption because she didn't want Sarah to suffer the way her other children have. She wanted to give Sarah a chance to to have a wonderful life.

The one thing that Dee wanted to make clear to Sarah is that she did NOT reject Sarah. She loves her, and always will! Although her decision to relinquish was the most painful thing she ever went through, it was also the best choice for her daughter.

It is my hope as a parent that Sarah grow up feeling secure, happy and most of all understanding of her bmom's choice to relinquish.

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

My son's bio-father is a level 3 sex offender that raped his 13 year old mother...thus resulting in his conception.

It is my life's goal to both protect him from this ugly truth as long as I can and instill in him a love so strong that when the truth does come out, he knows that despite how he came into this world he is and will always be my little miracle!!

[HappyTwinsMom]

My daughters' birthmom was 18 years old and parenting a two-month-old when she got pregnant with the twins. She has told me that the idea of abortion never crossed her mind, and she investigated every possible option for parenting, but didn't feel she could be an effective parent to three babies under a year old. She didn't have a job, consistent housing, or support. She struggled with the decision to place them, but now feels she made the best possible choice given her circumstances at the time. She loves the girls very much, something I tell them regularly, and wanted them to have a better chance at a more comfortable life.

[SchmennaLeigh]

The one thing? She was always wanted and always loved.

Okay, technically, that's two but you get what I mean. So often I hear that, since I placed her, I didn't want her. Or I didn't love her. Or any myriad of other untruths. The truth remains that from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I wanted her. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I loved her.

That never changed. Never will.

[MrsHoot]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

The one thing? She was always wanted and always loved.

Okay, technically, that's two but you get what I mean. So often I hear that, since I placed her, I didn't want her. Or I didn't love her. Or any myriad of other untruths. The truth remains that from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I wanted her. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I loved her.

That never changed. Never will.

I couldn't have said it better myself!

[mom2justynsarah]

That's beautiful, gave me chills...

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

The one thing? She was always wanted and always loved.

Okay, technically, that's two but you get what I mean. So often I hear that, since I placed her, I didn't want her. Or I didn't love her. Or any myriad of other untruths. The truth remains that from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I wanted her. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I loved her.

That never changed. Never will.

[lovemine77]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

The one thing? She was always wanted and always loved.

Okay, technically, that's two but you get what I mean. So often I hear that, since I placed her, I didn't want her. Or I didn't love her. Or any myriad of other untruths. The truth remains that from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I wanted her. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I loved her.

That never changed. Never will.

I agree whole heartedly!!!! That is the absolute truth, and couldn't have said it better.....

[crick]

If I had to pick one thing...(sheesh!)

I want my kids to know that it's perfectly okay to love both me/dad and love their bparents too. That it's okay to miss them and hope to see them again and not feel guilty for doing so. That I will never think they are "disloyal" to me for loving all of us.

Ya, like Jenna...more than 1 thing, but it all goes together I think.

[Shellikin]

Well, when I got pregnant, I didn't have a job, I had about $3K worth of credit card debt, and I was living with mom and dad when I found out I was pregnant. The baby's father wasn't much better off. By the time all that got fixed, I had already picked out the couple and the pregnancy was feeling like a surrogacy.

My son's parents have assured me that they're going to let him know my story, I mean as it's age appropriate. We have contact through letters, pictures, e-mail. So he's going to know me, know I love him. I guess the thing I'd let him know is that his biological father was so uninvolved with the pregnancy, the birth, and the adoption because that was his way of trying to make it easier on himself, not because he just doesn't care about him.

[SweetChild]

What is the one thing you want your child to know?

That I'd give up a lot to go back and undo it.