[longingtomeetyou]

seeing as i still havent heard from the adoptive parents in regards as to why they arent sending a picture ......

ive been thinking that i deserve an answer directing from them.......seeing as i feel they have left the picture thing unsolved. ...if you will.......

i was wondering if i should ask the pastor to ask the adoptive parents to phone me directly ....and not through a third party such as the pastor .....

i think the adoptive parents need to hear how hurt i am that they would get my hopes up and then dash them.....

any advice regarding how to go about this......

[SchmennaLeigh]

If you want them to speak directly to you, speak directly to them.

If you want respect, show them respect.

[HappyTwinsMom]

If you have a way to contact them directly, do it.

[SweetMamaMe]

Why don't you write a letter, and try to not assume the worst about them. Upon first learning of your contact with the pastor, maybe they got excited to hear from you and quickly agreed to the picture. If their daughter was not in a 'place' to be told of your contact at this point, they may have thought twice about the picture, after the 'excitement' wore down. I mean, their choices are to tell dd about your contact and see if she's comfortable sending a picture, or don't tell her and send it behind her back. The latter is probably not a good idea, period. The first option just may not be an option at this point. If I remember correctly, she's 16? Regardless, there is just NO way to know what is going on in their lives right now. It's possible that they did tell her, she didn't want to send a picture, and they don't know how to tell you without hurting your feelings. There are limitless, endless possibilities. Take a deep breath, get out that pen and paper, and write your heart out. Better yet, do it on the computer so you can easily add to, take away, correct, reflect, perfect, then get it on paper and send it without thinking too much about it.