[kellyengel]

I am new to the forum. My husband and I adopted our son in 2001, his birthmother did not want to meet me and I totally respect that...but I wish I knew her. I wish I could talk to her and tell her about Sam. The attorney made a mistake and gave us identifying information about her..name, etc I could track her down but I respect her right to privacy. I just miss her, and that's strange because I don't know her.

We have started the process to adopt our second child and this time it has to be different. I know this sounds selfish but I need to know this person. I need to connect with her. I am thrilled beyond words with being a mom and with our beautiful son but without his birthmother things seem incomplete.

I've needed to vent for sometime...thanks

[Montraviatommyg]

Kelly,

You have a lovely attitude and good luck with with your second adoption. I relinquished my son back in 1981 but wasn't told about open adoption so I can't say how I would have felt at that time about that type of adoption. It was a hard time emotionallly for me so I'm not sure if I could have handled an open adoption so maybe it was like that for your son's birth mother. Just be assured you have a good heart and thoughtful.

Pip

[Boulderbabe]

Are you absolutely sure she wants privacy? If you can google her address, what about just dropping a short note saying, "hey, I don't know if you want contact, but we think about you often and would like to share photos and stories about our child with you." You could put a stamped self-addressed postcard in the envelope for her to mail back to you, if she does want some updates.