[KrzAngGrL]

Are you going to met your son?

[DavidKed]

I would really like to someday. His adoptive parents want him to but he is not ready yet. To be honest, I dont think I am either, even if there is nothing I want to do more than see my son again.

So, we are going really slow and just exchanging letters and pictures for now.

We exchanged letters when he was 12, but I freaked out and did something really stupid, hurtful, and selfish - I stopped writing and I never returned his last letter until earlier this year (over 4 years later).

[roselynn]

I'am a birth mother and I have a son. Yes I do think about my son alot.

[Cassidys_Momma]

I think of my daughter everyday. I say goodnight to her picture I have by my bed. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her. Think of what new things she's doing now, What she looks like at the time. I can't imagine going through a day and not thinking of her.

[dl]

Everyone is different. I met by bioFather and bioHalfsiblings last summer. My bioMother did not think of me or my bioHalfbrother that she relinquished 15 months prior to my birth at all. My bioFather did not think of me on my birthday ~ didn't even remember when it was. Fairy tales are nice, but realistic expectations are so important, IMO.

[BrandyHagz]

Fairy tales are nice, but realistic expectations are so important

I agree with dl…my birthmother admittedly didn’t even remember the month I was born in…

Adoption affects each person differently…some birthmothers remember every minute detail…while others have blocked out the entire pregnancy.

[Juscuz]

I too am a bmom in contact now for 1 year. I can tell you my entire 9 month pregnancy, how I felt about my body, myself, the self esteem, the entire conficts of emotions, the day I made the decision and didn't tell a soul, and finally signing the papers - all alone without the wise advice of my parents, I was afterall the adult and I made the decision.

Oh how I wish I could revert back to that glorious day I found out I was pregnant, and do it all differently...for just a moment.

But I can't.....and I did go on. But noone would ever know what the heart held, the secret, the panic to think you'd be found out, having your bchild appear on your doorstep and announce their arrival, of how they looked, did you place with great parents - the journey ws long, and now ........I look back and know without a doubt in my mind I could not have done it like his aparents did. They put him on a pedestal, he's respectful, loving, kind, and funny. I had too many issues and depression would have killed us both.

Yes........I thought of my son all the time. Hoping that someday....one of us will be brave enough to take the first leap, and since it wasn't me, I'm so glad it was him.

We are going to finally meet after 24 years, so far we've been in contact only - email/phone (couple times), but this will be real life - 3 more weeks and counting down.......I'm so excited.

[bmomrainbow]

There is not a day that goes by that I have not thought of my birthdaughter and pray for her happiness. I cannot wait and I hope that some day (soon) I will hear from her.
May God Bless you in your journey.

[skinnylou]

I think of my son everyday. I think of him in the same pattern as I do the children I am parenting.

I have thought of him as he should be reaching milestones, when his siblings were born, when his siblings amazed me, when his siblings disappointed me. I have always thought of him in the same pattern as his siblings, he is my son.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Everyday in everything that I do, including random things like showering or washing dishes, I think of my daughter.

[scarlet52698]

Yes I've thought of my son everyday and said a prayer each night for him and his family. Hopefully one day I'll have a chance to tell him how much he is loved by his birthfamily.

[tenngal]

I am the birthmother of a son who is 35. I have recently reunited with him. He was born April 4, 1970 and I talked to him on April 25, 2005 for the first time. In the 35 years that I didn't know him there was not a day that went by that he was not in my heart, my mind and my prayers. I am glad that he is in my life now.

[Montraviatommyg]

I constantly thought about my son for 23 years then last year we were reunited and still have contact.

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