[Lopo805]

I am going through the same issues you are. I think that she is just doing that so she does not overstep or scare you away by saying "mom". My reunion has gone very well so far too, but I think that if my bmom called herself my "mom" I would be a little freaked out. My assumption is that she does not want to scare you or try to take the credit for someone else raising you.

[Sally878]

She is probably just afraid to take the "bio" out of the name for fear of overstepping her bounds. My son simply calls me Sally and I don't expect he'll ever call me anything else out of respect for his amom and quite frankly, not knowing me really well. If you'd like her to take it out just ask her or maybe suggest a name you might be comfortable calling her. That is my take on it anyway.

Sally

[katlyn]

I must agree with what I've read that other bmoms have posted. I am not currently in reunion, but I have sent three letters in hopes of that being the next "big step". In each of those letters, I signed them "Always, Michelle". First, because I don't feel the right to say "mom", she has a mom, I don't want her to feel like I'm stepping in and reclaiming that title or something(either her or her mom). Second, I don't feel I have the right to sign it "love", I think that for her, she might think, how can I love her when I don't "really" know her. I do love her, with all my heart, just as I'm sure your "bio mom" loves you, but I am waiting until she tells me she's ready for my love I will hang on to that word right now. I wish you all the best, and I'm sure that if you and your mom talk about it, you'll see she's not wanting to overstep her boundries is all, just maybe you could non chalantly make it known how you think of her, as a mom, mamma, or just her name in general. Best of luck!

[thanksgivingmom]

I had the same issues with how to sign a letter...DD is still a baby so she can't tell me what she is comfortable with, and I havent spoken to her amom yet either, so when I sent her a Christmas letter I god to the end and realized that I didn't know what to do.

I would be honored to someday be allowed to call myself "mother" though, but would never allow myself that title without the approval of Ava and her mom.