[Amy2U]

Daughter/Son:

I'm sorry for the way things turned out all those years ago, and why we had to be separated from each other.

If you went through any type of emotional, physical, sexual, or other pain because of this, it was not my wishes. I wanted the best for you, I really did.

You want to have contact? Sure!!!! It's THE LEAST I CAN DO FOR YOU, after all these years.

You want to know your background? Your family? Sure! I have pictures, and videos, etc.

You want to meet? Of course! I'll do anything for us to meet.

(If the birthchild was a secret--like me) You know, I'm not ready for anyone to know what happened back then, but I KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO YOU, for us to meet. Let's start planning something, okay? For now, we can write, or email, privately. You have to respect that for me right now, but I AM HERE, TO TALK, TO LISTEN, I'm here as much as you need me to be.

(If the birthchild is not a secret) You have cousins and aunts and uncles,etc. who you can meet. Oh,. you look like -----------.

I do have children. (Adopted/biological) but, we are connected now, and I won't leave you again!

We can start slow, but I'M HERE CHILD. I'm here.

That is what I would like to hear from MY BIRTH MOTHER!

[lilly123]

Amy,

Those are the words I would love to send/tell my bdaughter, I can only wish that she would want to hear them. I was reading some of your other posts, and I find it so hard to believe that your bmom is acting the way she is. My grandmother also took the secret od my bdaughter to the grave with her. My mom and her were the only one's that knew. Just recently in this past October did I let the rest of my family in on my secret (my dad's side). I will tell you something, even though it is the flip side of the table in our situations, talking with my family has done a world of good for me. The openess and discussions are endless, and always makes me feel better. I would offer this advice as far as your grandad, I have come to notice through life, the older you get, the more mellow, forgiving and understanding you get. (unless you are 100% a harda**). But I am sure your grandad knows he probably doesn't have alot of time left here on earth, what would it hurt to go and see him?? Face to face is alot better than a letter or a phone call, especially after all of these years. Just curious, what kind of relationship does your bmom have with your grandad???

XOXOXOXOXO
Lilly

[Montraviatommyg]

Amy,

If I could have let my son know an abreviated version of that before reunion I would have.



Pip

[mamabee]

Amy...you must have read my mind!!!