[basketball18]

hi,
I just turned 18 about 2 months ago. I would like information on how to find your real parents.If you have any information please tell me.Thank you

[Sharon]

Hi, I'm a bmom who recently searched for and located my son. You can either search on your own (depending on the state you were born in; in some states this is nearly impossible) or you can pay a search service, or you can contact a "search angel", which is a volunteer searcher who does not charge money. You can also try posting your info on various registries and hope someone is searching for you too and will read your posts and contact you.
You might try contacting Colleen Buckner (username, "The search Guru") and maybe she can give you some links to get you started.
One thing I wanted to mention, and please don't think I'm attacking you, because I truly don't mean this rudely... many people on this forum take exception to birthparents being referred to as "real parents". You can see how that terminology would be hurtful to adoptive parents, and to adoptees who consider their aparents their "real" parents. It might be better if you changed the wording to "biological parents". It still amounts to the same thing, without implying that aparents are substandard or not-real.
Best of luck to you in your search, and feel free to contact me if there's anything I can do to help. I have a bit of experience with Texas searches, not much with other states. However, I might be able to refer you to a search angel in your area.
Best, ~ sharon

[basketball18]

thank you for your help.I'll check into that.
I wouldnt of said real parents but i couldnt think of the other term for it.Plus i dont live with my adopted parents they gave my sis and i up.I was under graudainship. Again thank you for the advice and help.

Ericka

[GailLane]

If you were adopted through a Catholic Charity or some other place start there. Go to the Court House Registar of Wills they may be able to help you. I am searching for my daughter she turned 18 on 6/20/1985 and I sent letters to all of the places I thought she might contact. Be careful of the information you give people it is easy to be scammed I know It has already happened to me. Start asking questions If it doesn't bother you to let people know you were adopted let everyone know. Some people have secrets. Again, Just be careful with the information you give to people on the net. I wish you great amounts of patients and luck. I hope you have a wonderful reunion and if it happens let us all know. Gail

[francie169]

i have a question, do birthmothers get upset when their children call their adoptive parents mom? and also, what DO birthmothers want their found children to call them???