[PHaley]

HELP PLEEEEEEEEEEEASE
!!!!!
Yesterday I was doing the regular rounds of agencies that normally have available situations and looking to see if any caght my eye. I have pretty much moved away from anything but newborns. I think I had really come excited about the idea of bringing my precious baby home from the hospital and having every possible moment with him/her. But then yesterday I went to Lifelines website and saw one of their special babies and I was hooked. He is so beautiful and even looks like my God sons.

Anyways my questions are:

1) Does anyone know if they work with singles?

2) Does anyone know how much it is to adopt through them? Interstate? Waiting Child?

3) What do you do when you fall in love with a baby that you dont know if you can raise?

Any and all info welcome.
I hope you are all having good luck in your adoption journeys.

http://www.lifelineadoption.org/ Under Special Babies his name is John. Just in case you wanted to see this precious angel I speak of.

[Linny]

I forgot to add this on the other board. You asked about 'what do you do when you fall in love with a child's photo, etc.'

This has happened to a lot of us.....and it happened to me...twice. Once was with a sib group that we had such a great chance of 'getting'....and it fell through. The other was a little girl who was being treated in the hospital and when I inquired about her (photo was on the internet under system kids).......the caseworker was very thrilled to talk to me and told me he liked my attitude for this little girl. Said that I was unlike the other people who had called about her.

I was so thrilled to think about having her in our home, and I wanted to go to the hospital (way out of state)....just to stay by her side!!!!! UNTIL.........I was told of a condition she had that was inoperable, very, very serious, and would require many ongoing surgeries and therapies. I knew then......and I HATED to hear that she had this condition.....that with the children I already had, there was no way we could devote the time needed for her treatments. And, the eventuality that she would very likely live a very fragile life with many complications. Ones that I knew would not be 'cured' and forever be there.

If she had been the only child we would have had in our home, it might have been different. However, I knew this was the sign that we could never have this little one. It was hard to accept. I talked to God about it. I decided that she would be a little one that I COULD pray for and hope that the 'right parents' would come along and adopt her.

And......if this child is not meant to be....then I suggest that you do the same? Maybe, if he's not meant to be yours (and he is lovely)....then you are meant to pray for him and the parents he will have.

Sincerely,


Linny

[Dianna]

It sounds like you should call them and ask! Don't be afraid to inquire. That is the first step. There are many more steps after that and you can stop any time along the way. Best wishes. He is very beautiful!

[PHaley]

Thank you ladies for your comments.

Linny- thank you for sharing your story. It always helps to know we are not alone in a situation. Also I do try to pray as much as I can, even little prayers. I know that He is guiding me through this process and I trust that the child(ren) He means for me will come when the time is right. Like they say, "He doesnt always come when you want Him to, but He is always right on time! "

Dianna-thank you for your support also. I want to call and maybe in the morning I will have pulled together the strength, but I just wanted to check here (where people seem to know so much, be so supportive and have so much more experience) before I called them. I think more than anything it's the fear of the unknown and of rejection, I would be elated and scared if they said they could work with me and I would be heart broken if they said they could not. But you are right, facing the music is the best way to go.

May His angels keep you both on your adoption and parenting journeys.

Thanks agian.

Oh ya I'll let you know what they say