[Terese]

We are adopting our 4th child-who is to be born tomorrow. I am so scared! What if she changes her mind. All of my other children are from foster to adopt-sooo this is the first time we are trusting a birthmother and the Lord of course. It will be a long 72 hours after the baby is born. The birthmother wants us to come up and bond with the baby before the 72 hours are up and I am afraid.
We have not even gotten down the crib or anything, mu husband said the other 3 came home without notice and we got ready in plenty of time. I AM GOING CRAZY!!

[Jaimie02]

I am soooo happy for you. Congrats! Just remember to be calm and know that it will all work out for the best.

I know how you feel!! Our last adoption was on shacky ground the entire time. Don't make the same mistake that I did. I was very hesitant to bond with the baby at the hospital!!! After a long 72 hours and alot of tears she decided to place and I can never get back the time I choose not to spend holding and kissing my gorgeous baby!!! We said a lot of prayers those couple of days and in the end God answered our prayers. Good luck to you and God Bless!!!

[dtltbaby]

My husband and I pray to adopt an infant in GA. He was born 10/17/02.

We don't know if she has selected us or not. GA has a law that says birthmom have 10 days to change thier mind. We hope to hear something today. I am on pins and needles!

[Linny]

When we got the blessing of our latest little one, the baby was born on one day, and the next, we were picking the baby up at the hospital. I got to talk with birthmom, and was assured that she didn't want to change her mind; but it didn't make me feel a whole lot better....two days from then!
In the end, she signed the papers....but like your state, we had to wait three days until papers can be signed at all. I swore that I wouldn't get attached. After ALL.....it was only for three days!
But by the end of the second day, I was hooked and sobbed a lot. Our family had endured so much heartache for the past three years and the thought that 'this one wouldn't happen' , just seemed unbearable. (The heartaches had nothing to do with 'failed adoptions', however.)
However, I had to keep reminding myself, that all had seemed 'too good' and 'fallen into place' before my worry. It seemed to be 'of the Lord' and I kept praying that if it wasn't to be, then the Lord would help us through it.
This baby has been a blessing like no other (this is our sixth child....we have submitted for the next baby)....and I daresay, it's because the Lord was showing us quite clearly that 'HE was in charge!"
Just try to bond as much as you can stand for the first few days until you know. Consider that you are doing it especially for the baby....for those first few days are sooooo very important bonding times. If it shouldn't work out; consider that you have given that infant a 'gift' of knowing a momma's love......and perhaps that will carry it through days ahead of 'readjusting'.
I think your baby will come home to you and all will be fine.


Please post and let us know the outcome....


Linny

[Terese]

Our son was born on 09/26/02. We went an visited the birthmom in hospital. We waited the 72 hours before he could home. She signed the papers and every thing has been GREAT! Busy but great!

[dtltbaby]

I just got the call from the agency. The BF's mother says she is going to help them parent. I'm ok, a little disappointed, but I know all things work together for good.

[Linny]

Congrats to you Terese!

I'm glad to hear that everything went just fine! (Bet you got that crib up in record time too, huh?! LOL!)

Linny

[Linny]

In posting 'congrats' to Terese, I did not mean to overslight your situation at all.
I have been in your shoes.....not with a private attorney situation; but with a 'system' situation whereby we were told we 'were the ones' to parent three little ones. We bought the clothes, car seats, you name it. We had four visits with these children (at the 'blessing' of the caseworker). Days later, we were told that the caseworker had 'talked too soon' and her supervisor decided the children should wait and a panel would decide.

Weeks later, one foster parent of the three decided they changed their minds and wanted to parent the one child. The other two were placed together miles away with a family that wouldn't be bothered by the abusive birth parents.

Probably a good choice.......but awfully hard on our family.
I think we'll never do 'system adoption' again.

Dtltbaby......your baby will come in due time, in God's timing and it will be absolutely 'perfect' for your family.

Sincerely,

Linny

[dtltbaby]

Any news?