[Ashman]

I was reading a book entitled The Russian adoption handbook by JohnMaclean. In that book the author states that during the home study you will be ask if you will spank your child. The author states that you just tell the social worker no and move on even if you know you plan to act differently. My wife and I have two biological children and are considering foreign adoption. We are Christians and while we don’t spank regularly, there have been times when we felt it was an appropriate discipline response for the situation. I have a real problem with the advice of the author. While I don’t want to be belligerent about it, I feel it is dishonest to tell this “little white lie”. How big a deal is this? Is this a “deal killer” on the home study?

[Vogi2002]

Some agencies require you to NEVER use spanking, some are okay with it. Mine realizes that, while shouldn't be the MAIN use for discipline, it may have to be used as a last resort. That is what I told them, that it would be rare, but if it is needed....

Of course, if you are adopting internationally you may have to research the countries rules too....I would not suggest lying as it can come back to bite you big time.

Natalie

[xillini]

Don't lie! We did domestic adoption & it was one of the questions asked. They had no problems with our answer.

[b4truth]

it's easy to say but don't lie...i just don't think God ever puts you in a position to lie. ya know? the devil is the great "liar" so...


we were honest with our sw and told her that we thought it (spanking) was acceptable as a form of discipline, however, as foster to adopt parents we would abide by their rules when we are given a child (no spanking period).

of course, the agency even made clear, that after the adoption, we may choose to use that form of discipline.