[posh]

Hi everyone,
I need to ask for prayers. My dh and I have thought alot about adopting. We made the decision to go ahead in the fall. I want to do what I feel God wants me to do but at this point I am not sure what that is. I felt led to adopt but now I am questioning whether we should or not. I still have time to pray about it. I know it is a very big decision to make at our ages. I am 49 dh is 53. I know that some do not agree with older people adopting and how old we will be when the child grows up and all of that. I know that we can't go out and do some of the things little kids might like to do but we do have alot of love to share with a little one. I think that counts for something right? Anyway what I need are prayers that God will have us do what He wants us to do. thanks.

[lmvsmom]

Sure, posh, it is a huge decision. We are 35 and 45, so we're not spring chickens, either. If you have the resources and a lot of love to share, go for it! There are so many children who need homes and forever families. Best wishes to you on your decision.

[posh]

Thank you so much for responding. I guess I am just doubting myself right now.

[vernellinnj]

I'm nearing forty and single. I'm getting ready to pursue infant adoption. I'm certain that God has placed this on my heart. I say pray and go for it!

[posh]

thanks vernell. I too am praying it is God and not just me wanting. I keep asking for signs!! lol

[Linny]

Posh:
This can be such a hard decision. We have adopted many times; and have had adoption heartbreaks as well (including older children in residential and dissolution of adoptions of older children). But, we have had great success with our baby adoptions (two are now grown, two are still at home).
We are older...wiser....more patient, and certainly not rich by any means. Our hearts have always felt guided to adopt children (by choice, not infertility)..and our monies have gone into this (rather than extensive travels and motorcycles, for instance...lol!)
And even now, at 49yrs old, we're still hoping and considering another baby.........

I know you think about getting older. I know that you wonder if you'll be able to keep up. But I'll tell you that we look younger, we act younger and feel younger than most people our age. People are amazed we are 49'ers...and we still have pre-schoolers at home.

If you are praying....if you feel led.......go for it. More and more couples are older when they adopt and there are certainly good reasons for it too. Do it, and if the 'retirement crowd' tells you you're too old for this, look at them and state that you're as young as you feel and you're not ready for assisted living!!!!!!! LOL

Best of luck to you, and keep us all posted!

Sincerely,

Linny

[posh]

Linny thank you so much for the encouragement! It means alot to me to know others are out there. Tonight I am having one of those sleepless nights worrying about everything! again thanks.
Elaine

[gforce]

Hi,
decided to get up early so that dh's alarm would quick waking me up!
There will be many signs for you to assist your decision to adopt but don't let age stop you. I am in the older category and dh acts like it-lol.
He did show me time and again that He wanted us to pursue this path and it took a lot of persuading on His part.In fact, I did not tell dh for 6 months in the hopes that I could talk God out of it. We have gotten the "crazy " comments including from our oldest. However, the same ds did add that "it was crazy enough to be God...."
God does speak to each of us in our own language and only the two of you know what will reassure your heart. It may be in the form of Scripture, or research that you do, or even a sudden confirmation out of the blue.
My thought now? Go for it -if it's not His will, then He can shut the door. If it is His, then gates of hell cannot prevail.
Yes, the money and energy are items to weigh in but don't let that stop you. He can provide all.

[mmcool]

Originally Posted by gforce

if it's not His will, then He can shut the door. If it is His, then gates of hell cannot prevail.

I have to agree wholeheartedly with this statement.

DH and I first started actively exploring adoption about 3 years ago. We didn't even get a chance to really get going with the process when all sorts of things happened to prevent us from moving forward. We stepped back from it reluctantly, but didn't feel that there were other options at the time.

Just when we were to the point that we thought maybe God did not intend for us to be parents (we've been married 7 years), a friend of mine and her husband adopted their daughter from China. In talking with her, I told her about how we had wanted to adopt. She passed on the name of her SW, and after a few months of thinking about it, we felt moved to try one more time. We first met our SW in January and instantly knew we wanted to work with her. Since that time, the whole process has been amazingly smooth. We are now to the point of waiting for our daughter's passport to be issued by the Korean government (hopefully by the end of the year).

In looking back, I can see that it was not God's will for us to adopt three years ago, but now is His perfect time. He has shown that by blessing us with a beautiful daughter.

I pray that you find the clarity that you are seeking.

Melissa

[posh]

gforce and mmcool thank you so much. I know the road is rocky and long. I keep praying and so does hubby. with you guys as support here I know it will make the journey much easier. I am glad the Lord sent me here!

[Truthdefenders]

Posh,

What you lack in energy, you most likely will make up in wisdom and patience. I am 42 and we are adopting a 2 year old. Some mornings I wake up and say, "What in the world are we doing?" But then, I remember that this is God's plan, not mine, and He will give me strength for the journey.

I can't find any Scripture that says "Don't take care of orphans and widows." If you both feel lead by God, then go for it. Children are a blessing. Blessings are good. May God bless you beyond your wildest imagination.

[devildogwife]

Praying for you too.

[waitingpatiently]

If God put it in your heart go for it, he will supply. I am 45 and my husband is 55. Our friends are 48 and 56 they are on their 3rd adoption. I will pray for you. God bless!

[mylovebug]

Posh, if you let your age stop you from putting a child in a home with a family to love it then you would be crazy. Don't get too discouraged or distacted from what God leads you to do, he knows what you can handle. And I am only 28, but I can tell you that if God calls you to it he is going to equip you through it. Just think of that child having a family that will love it forever. Things happen out of the normal/natural timing sometimes and you never know the real reason for it. I had my first at 16(unexpected) but who knows what would have happened to me where I was headed, I had my second at 17(planned) and God called us to adopt several(5) years ago. I did about 3 years of research until I felt led in the right direction.And we did about 1 year of paperwork and homestudy, followed by an 11 month wait. And of course there were times I got impatient but in the end I realized that God had something very spacific in mind for us but it had to be in his timing or we might would have been out of his will.And I don't know about you but I don't want to be out of his will, not when it comes to something so serious as another life. I hope that you feel his hand during the whole process and in the end you know confidently that God was in controll. Good luck to you and your family

[Gavin's Mom]

Originally Posted by posh

Hi everyone,
I need to ask for prayers. My dh and I have thought alot about adopting. We made the decision to go ahead in the fall. I want to do what I feel God wants me to do but at this point I am not sure what that is. I felt led to adopt but now I am questioning whether we should or not. I still have time to pray about it. I know it is a very big decision to make at our ages. I am 49 dh is 53. I know that some do not agree with older people adopting and how old we will be when the child grows up and all of that. I know that we can't go out and do some of the things little kids might like to do but we do have alot of love to share with a little one. I think that counts for something right? Anyway what I need are prayers that God will have us do what He wants us to do. thanks.

Dear Posh,
My husband and I prayed for years for our baby and tried everything under the sun to get pregnant. At every turn God presented his will in the form of stories from others about adoption, a dear friend adopting etc. Once we stopped praying for OUR child and prayed for A child, God answered our prayer and gave us a beautiful infant son after waiting only 3 weeks! I am 40 and my husband is slightly younger but we don't care. Our friends and family have overwhlemed us with offers to help and we intend to let them. My rambling point is: if you believe that this is God's will, he will provide for you in terms of support and he will provide for your child.