[StorkWatcher]

Are we allowed to quote from another thread and put here? If so, I was disturbed and saddened by some posts made by a user on a thread having to do with how to explain adoptin to a child. I am surprised at how much this bothers me. True, it is just one person's opinion (I think after reading ther poster's other posts, the entire dialogue bothered me, as a whole.), so I shouldn't let it get to me.

One person mentioned that they told their child that God picked one mother for the child to grow in her belly, then another mother to adopt and raise the child. THere are several back and forth posts to the thread which discuss GOd's role in and how we explain adoption.

This post especiall bothered me:

[quote= A three year old doesnt understand the concept of God or even what it means to be adopted. As he grows and his brain develops he is going to understand more complex and abstract ideas. When he is 7 he will know that being adopted means also being given away. When he grows into his late teens he will be integrating his identity and he will know there are unanswered questions that will need real answers. What works for a three year old wont fly when hes 7 or 18. It might be better for him if you see yourselves as the trustees of his life instead of the owners of it. Who he is and where he came from is not something that is yours to give, it is his property and you are obligated to protect it for him and never from him.[/QUOTE]

As an adult, do I truly understand God? Probably not. The whole point of faith is that we accept and believe without knowing all facts. I would hope that my 3 and 5 year old nieces now, and my son someday, will as small children feel God's love and have been taught that He is responsible for their lives and for creating our families.

I know our son was given to us by God. God led his birthmother to us and answered prayers for us all.

And I know I am not alone in feeling and believing this way.....

I will end by saying I was heartened to see someone posting in a very positive way to explain how Christians (or maybe she just said those that believe in God, I can't quote without going back to check) know God brought them together through adoption.

I need to pray for the first poster I discussed, as I feel he needs peace. Or maybe I've read him wrong.

[mommatomm&m]

I agree fully with what you say. My daughters at 6 years old live a stronger christian walk and "really get" God more than I at 24 (ok, ok 31). I will pray for him also. r

[saxxxy]

There is no doubt in my mind that my daughter was sent to me by God. She is one of the greatest blessings He has ever granted me.
I also believe that I knew my daughter's Mom before this life. She had to have loved me so much in the pre-existence to agree to such a difficult plan for bringing our daughter to the world.
I am glad that there are others out there who know that our children were planned for us and sent to us by Him according to His plan.

Now if He will only deliver me #2.

[StorkWatcher]

mommaMs - What? Is there a number that comes after 29? I don't think I"ll teach my son to count that high when it comes to age.....

saxxxy - You aren't a'kiddin'! I'm trying to plan now how to convince my hubby that we managed to do it w/ #1, we can manage for a #2 also...... I have a year or so to plan. That plan includes a year's worth of prayers!!! I guess we'll see how many God plans for us to parent.

[momraine]

I have posted on that other thread. It bothered me too, but honestly, I think that the poster who was angry has thier own unresolved anger issues. Judging by several of the posts.

[mommamarci]

That thread has also been bothering me. I have quit reading it. My nephew is four and I know his understanding is simplified, but he understands about Jesus, God, Heaven, etc. As the children grow, their questions become more complex, but so does their understanding of God.

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I suppose there was a time when I actually questioned my faith, but it was only after I had some very life changing experiences that I truley believed. First when I lost my father...he would have loved my babies SO much and been SO proud of me. Second when I was blessed with my sons.

You can't have loved and lost and then been given gifts so precious and not believe in a higher power. I also don't think I would have the unmeasureable appreciation of motherhood if he had not put the obstical of my infertility on my path. For that, the treasure that is motherhood makes me the richest woman in the world.

It is sad that people feel the need to force their negative views on those who believe.

[Maggie Beth]

I can recommend a wonderful book about adoption, written by a Christian Education professor... it is called The Spirit of Adoption: At Home in God's Family by Jeanne Stevenson Moessner. I have included a link below to an article she wrote about Christianity and adoption that I've found to be very helpful...

http://www.highbeam.com/library/docf...G%3AResult&ao=

We never know when the seed is going to be planted. Our 17-month-old already says "Amen" when we say our family prayers. I think God's Holy Spirit touches children very early and often!

[StorkWatcher]

Thank you for the link. It is a good article, and I will think on some of those ideas and will look up the references.