[lakin11]

We are fostering three young children we've had for a month tomorrow. We are for sure in love with these kids and they seem attached to us as well. As of right now, they are a foster placement only, not adoptable, although that might change in the months to come. When my husband and I felt led to foster and possibly adopt, we knew it would be hard to let the kids go, but we knew it was part of the "job" of fostering.
I know as a Christian, that God will provide and if this case is going to turn to adoption, we would be greatly blessed. My biggest struggle right now is really praying for God's will and not MY will! I've found myself praying that bmom screws up, doesn't make it to visits, etc. This week has been a little better with remembering HE is in charge and His will will be done! I have handed it over to God, but there are times I find myself pulling it back. I know this is going to be a loooooooooooooong process and if there is TPR, it will be a struggle. How do I keep from wishing bmom to mess up and loose the kids?
Any words of wisdom for me?
Shannon

[jen1mac]

We are foster/adopt parents also. It is a struggle. We have adopted one daughter and we now are foster parents to her birth sister who we would love to adopt but there are no guarantees. One way we look at is as a ministry. Pray that God will give you a love for the birthmom and pray for her. When I met our daughter's birthmom for the first time I was so nervous but I saw her is a girl(18 years old) who has never been shown love and she was hurting and scared. It is a battle though when your heart is already pulled to the child or children in your case. Just keep reflecting on verses that talk about God's control and His love for you and how He knows what is best.

[Queenmom]

Hang in there with those kiddos! God will direct your involovement in their lives. We also had many sleepless nights wondering should we foster at first. We did and God was very gracious and saved me during that time. We adopted our daughter at 5 1/2 and it has been a wild ride! God has been so good when I have felt I couldn't take another step. Let Him know what is going on because He cares for you.(paraphrased I Peter 3:5)May God be with you in your dealings with the state and others.

Foster/Adopt 7/2000
Adoption 3/18/2005!