[gabyj]

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to respond and your prayers and encouragement. My mom and step-dad came last Thursday and are still here. Before she came I prayed lots and asked God to help me have compassion for her and understand where she is coming from. So far things have gone beautifully. She has asked a few tentative questions about the process and my husband and I gave her and his mother a book called "Adoption is a family affair" for Christmas. The best part, though, is that she gave ME for Christmas a book called "Loved by Choice: True Stories that Celebrate Adoption." To me that is a peace offering. Before last week's blowout she had been very supportive of our decision to adopt, so I'm beginning to think it was all a moment she was having. It's easy to forget that just because my husband and I have dealt with our infertily and have lovingly embrace adoption, not everyone in our family is at the same place. This week, however, has shown me that she is getting there in her time.
Thank you again for your support. We should be getting our homestudy done in the next few weeks. I'll update you. It's great to have a community to pray with.
Gaby

[Kymom2b]

Gaby, I'm sorry you haven't had COMPLETE support and understanding from your family. The journey of adoption is difficult enough without such problems. I will be praying that their hearts will continue to soften and that they will give you much needed support.


((Hugs)) to you.

[blessedbybug]

It's so hard when family members don't seem to understand our journey. You did the right thing, stepping back and seeing what their perspective might be. I know with those who hesitated (everyone is VERY supportive now..) alot of their fears came from seeing us hurting and in yet another unknown territory. They so wanted our lives to be normal (not that they are now, lol!) so they could stop worrying. I completely understand it now as a loving thing, one that they had difficulty expressing without coming off as unsupportive.

I'm glad your Mom and Family have opened at least a little bit to the process... praying all comes through and well for you...

[meimaemomma]

Gaby, your post is so empathetic and insightful and generous toward your family. They are blessed to have you! And they will be blessed by your family. And it sounds like they will know it.

[snaps]

Gaby -

Sorry to hear that you have had these problems, but it looks like things are a little better. Hopefully, your family will grow to appreciate adoption through your process. I also bought my family and my husband's family the Adoption is a Family Affair book. Our families were not anti-adoption, but definitely were not as supportive and happy as I expected them to be when we made our announcement that we planned to adopt. Now I feel that they are really educated and in fact our daughter was just born 12-1-05 and both sets of grandparents are ecstatic and can't stop holding her.

Good luck,
Snaps