[snaps]

My husband and I have been matched with a birthmother for several months. We have made the 7 hour trek to meet her, the birthfather, her two year old and multiple other family members (her mother, father, grandmother and brothers and sisters). In addition we have kept fairly regular contact via e-mail and some phone calls.

She is in a relationship with the birthfather (also the father of her two year old), however, they had made the decision to give up their daughter b/c she wants the best for both kids, plans to go back to school, and b/c they feel like they are just getting back on their feet from the first birth (when she dropped out of high school).

All was going well until recently. She was due Thanksgiving day. A few weeks prior to that she was told that she would be induced if she did not go by Nov. 17th (dr. thought that baby was large). Then they decided not to induce Nov. 15th b/c baby was not as big as they thought. They decided to wait it out and if she did not deliver by yesterday they would make a decision when to induce. Anyways, yesterday came and went and no call to us. We tried to call her and she did not return our calls. She also did not call the agency or the attorney. My guess is that she is having some second thoughts, but I wish she would let someone know. At this point we are just hanging. I am trying not to give up hope, but it is hard. We just keep praying.

I am not upset with her if she changed her mind b/c she just can't bear the thought of giving her baby up, etc. I just wish she would let someone know so that we can go on with our lives. We have had 3 previous miscarriages and this is just another huge loss.

Thanks for your prayers,
Snaps

[blessedbybug]

((((Hugs)))) The unknown in these situations is the worst. I've said a little prayer for you, the baby and this expecting Mom...

[frida_94601]

I am so sorry that you have to go through this, I want to let you know that even though I dont know you, you will be in my prayors.

[GRKinWisc]

Certainly thinking of you! BTDT!!!! We had an open domestic adoption fail after we had the baby for two months in our home. The mother decided to take him back just before we were to do the TPR. Definately the most difficult few months of our lives!!!God bless. It isn't easy but you will endure this regardless of the outcome!
Gretchen

[Kerlynne]

Hi! I realize it's been some time, since Snaps has written. However, I just saw this today, and you are in my mind. When you have a sec, write back so I know how to pray.

[snaps]

All is well. We now have a daughter and the "at risk" period is over See my other post "things are looking better" for picture of baby Jessica.

Thanks for your prayers,
snaps (new Mom)