[4maryyes]

Hello everyone,
I'm new at this so please bear with me.
I have known since dating my husband that I would like to someday adopt. We have been married 11 1/2 yrears. I feel that the last 2 years God is making His plan known to me again. My dh and I have 4 bio. sons-13,10,9 and 6. I love them all and would adopt any child who needs a home but since we don't have a daughter I thought it might be nice to adopt from China.
I have recently shared this with my dh and he feels he doesn't spend enough time with our sons as it is and is very concerned about adding another child into our family. I have been praying that God will put this on his heart and he will pray about it. I might add that financially we don't have the money for the adoption costs but we can handle the everyday costs just fine. Have any of you been through a simular situation? How did you handle the waiting period?? And what about the cost issue?
God bless you,
mary

[mj77]

Hello,
I was ready to adopt before my dh was. I am so glad I waited for him though. I could never have gone through the process alone. We weren't set on a specific genetic herritige for a child. We ended up adopting through our state which cost us nothing financially. We got our first son at 13 mo and our second son at 5 mo. They are beautiful and healthy. The waiting was difficult. We waited 11 mo. after our homestudy was finally certified for our oldest and 2 months for our youngest. The waiting can be so, so difficult though. God taught me a lot through waiting and longing. I'd like to think I'm a better mom because of it. I wish you the best in all this. Definately wait though until your dh is onboard before pursuing. That's my best advice for now.

Blessings,
Melissa

[smedf]

Hi Mary,

I too have bio sons 3 of them ages 19, 14 and 10 I love them dearly and always have yearned for a daughter but was content with my boys but God didn't put the yearning there without a response. I was thinking about it but really never brought adoption up to my dh but God did. My dh was actually the one that brought it to me. God had been working on both of us. So pray, pray for God to talk to your dh. I promise He is faithful and if thats what He wishes your dh's heart will be changed, hang in there.

Sherry