[halingr]

I am having a hard time waiting for God to speak to my husband about my desire to adopt. I have been feeling a very strong nudge from God to adopt a little boy who is blind that I met through my work with special needs kids. I won't explain the whole thing but the more I've found out about his situation (2 failed opportunities for adoption, timing of our meeting, etc.) I just know that God intends for our family to embrace this little guy. Anyway, although I've been going through this decision making process of praying and researching,etc. my husband seems to be sort of trying to put it off. I asked him to either contact a social worker at the Lutheran agency that I want to use or to contact friends of ours who are adopting 3 kids (already have 6 bio). He said he would but he hasn't. He just keeps saying that he's not feeling the call. He also says that he's afraid we don't have enough time with the children we already have but I can't understand that because outside of our jobs (I'm blessed to only work half time) and our church work(which mostly involves the kids) that's all we do is spend time with our kids and we love it that way. I'm trying so hard not to push that we rarely talk about it at all. I've told him everything I know about the financial aspects of caring for this boy - his adoption would be subsidized and he would continue to receive assistance after adoption since he's disabled, etc. I just don't know what else to tell him. For me, it's a God thing, I just do things that I feel God would have me do. It's that simple. How could I go wrong. All children are blessings and I've seen the extraordinary blessing that special needs children can be. Please pray for guidance for us and patience for me and pray for this little boy to have whatever God has planned for him.
God Bless you all for what you've already done for the children God has blessed you with.
Thanks.

[faithmylord]

I think you should copy the letter you wrote and put it under your hubby's pillow... I know that God will speak to him through your words... Keep up the prayer, you know if it is God's will for you and this blessed child, it Will Happen...
To God be the Glory... Peace and Joy, C

[lisa in venice]

My goodness I know where you are coming from. We were in excaterly the same place two years ago. I was feeling a strong call to adopt again. Our older kids came to us as babies but with some challeges and have done very well. I felt like we learned a lot and we were uniquely suited to parent children who others would not consider adopting. Dh also put it off becasue he really didn't want anymore chidlren. He was worried about money and time.

One day Iw as on my way to luch with a friend (youth minister at our church),I arrived early and she wasn't in her office yet. I decided to sit in the sancuary and pray on it. I didn't want to be angry and unhappy about not adoptiing again and I wanted to ask for guidance in how to pout that part of my life behind me. Just as I walked in my cell phone rang and it was our attorney calling and asking if we would be open to multiracial twin girls due any minute? If that wasn't God speaking to us I don't know what is?

Dh was totally overwhelmed but reluctantly agreed to move forward after several days. In the end the birth parents got married and parented the girls who were born a few weeks later but the situation got us talking. We could not talk about it becasue it was so emotional so we sent emails back and forth for several days. maybe if you sent your dh a copy of this post it could begin the conversation. i poured out my heart to my dh and explained why I felt the call and that he was a big part of it. I knew he worried about the time he spent with our kids but I wanted to increase our family BECAUSE he was a great dad and partner. He had lost sight of what he HAD accomplished as a dad. I admitted that he was right about the money but that I just KNEW things would work out.

Three months later our youngest was born. A perfect but tiny baby. Her birth mother had several challenges that made her hard to place in her city but she was perfect for our family. Yes money and time are tight but that doesn't matter as much when it just feels right. I hope the two of you can come to a place where you can do the right thing.

lisa