[FaithHopeinHim]

Changing Middle Names

Hello again, it has been awhile since my last post and WOW what a few months it has been. M and J are doing wonderful. A and D the older ones are doing great as well. We are ever so close to finalization. We are in the planning stages of our adoption ceremony and are discussing the changing of M and J middle names as well as last of course. What are some of your feelings about changing middle names? WE will NOT change their first name. How do we match a middle name to a first name?

Hope this post finds all of you closer to your hearts desires...

In His Love
T.

[L-A-J-C-R-C]

Hi T,

We will be changing our foster son's middle name when we adopt him too. We are naming him after his social worker's son to honor her for everything she's done to help us with these kids over the last 2 years (he had some medical problems and she helped us get services put into place despite his ped not agreeing with us). She has held my hand the entire 2 years we've been foster parents (these 2 were our first placement) and is a wonderful social worker that truly loves these kids!

A lot of people name their kids after their parents/grandparents. If one of those names goes with his first name use that. I like biblical names and used those for my bio. sons.

Best of luck with your adoption. Ours should be done in about 5 months and I'm already getting so excited.

Michelle

[mj77]

For our oldest son, we gave him the middle name which is his daddy's first name. It is tradition in his family. Our youngest son might get my dad's first name as his middle name. I thought about keeping the given name, as I like it, but I'd like to give him some name. I am keeping his first name. Maybe I will give him two middle names. I know someone who gave her son the first names of her and her dh's father's names as their son's middle name (did I make sense?).

I wrote out a list of names and we went through seeing what sounded the best. I googled in "baby name meaning" and got some sites that helped me find a name to a meaning. If there is something specifically special about your child, you can find out what name has that meaning.

[allanacw]

S is 5 (on Saturday!), and we were very on the fence with her name. In the end she decided, though we are months and months from finalizing.

She LOVES the name Niki for some reason. Always used it when we were playing make believe. When we introduced being called "Mommy Allana" and "Daddy Martin" she said if we were getting a new "front name", then so was she, and refused to answer to anything but Niki S***. It was so cute.

So, that put the nail in the coffin. It will be S** Nicole, and if she really wants to go by Niki, she can! We actually call her that at home most of the time.

My point (finally): I don't know how old they are, but why not involve them, though you do run the risk of them wanting Sponge Bob! Or involving your older kids? My favourite adoption book says that changing the middle name is part of the claiming process, so why not make it a family affair?

Good luck!