[sdbmom]

I am new to this site. I am also new at being a mom. Our baby is two months old and we are trying to adopt him through a private adoption. The only problem is the birth mom - out of the blue says that she wants him back. She signed her rights away. In our state after they sign that is it - they can't go back on it. There are alot of things that have happened that I can't talk about. Our lawyer says that we have a good chance of winning.
She wants to see him - but she had to lie about us in order to take us to court. I don't know what to do. Please pray!!

[crysmith]

You are in my prayers.

[pedpets]

It sounds like the bmom is having trouble letting go. Have you tried finding out if the bmom is wanting some sort of openess? Maybe if she receives pics and an update once or twice a year that might be enough for her. This might help her let go. That is if you're willing to do this. Unfortunately I don't have any answers for you. It's in the courts hands. Not knowing all the circumstances and details around this case I can't advise you on what to do. But don't dwell on it! Take it one step at a time or courtdate at a time. If your attorney thinks the cards are stacked in your favor than take that as a positive. The law states that after 30 days of a relinquishment its a done deal they can't come back and change their minds. It sounds like she's past this point. Think of it as a hiccup in your adoption journey. Don't stress your son can feel the tension. I know easier said than done. In the end when everything is said and done you'll be able to move on with your family.

Congrats on becoming a new Mom! Enjoy your baby and the whole experience of motherhood. I'll keep you in my prayers!

Virginia

[mj77]

I am sorry for your situation. Please remember when you give the situation to God, it rests in His hands. I know I can't make you not worry but maybe if you keep reminding yourself that God's hands are the best hands this situation could be in, you might feel better.

Blessings to you!!
Melissa

[amom4life]

Hi,
Congratulations on becoming a mom! I'm not sure what you're worried about because it sounds like the relinquishment waiting period is over and she signed so by law the child is legally your child.

I will pray for you. Though you couldn't share more details with us God knows them all and the situation is in His hands.
Blessings!
Judy

[Nancy57]

I'm so sorry you are going through this frightening time. May God hold you and your little one close, and may he clear the way to your successful adoption.

Nancy

[thewebers3@comc]

Your in my prayers
I wish you and your family peace of mind as soon as possible. God will protect you and your family. It sounds like just a bump in the road with adoption, maybe try to work with her maybe some pictures and some letters letting her know the baby is doing .wonderfully I also think she is just having a hard time letting go
My God bless you all!!

[Brat]

Just wanted to let you know I said a prayer for you! I know it must be stressful, but remember Who has you and your family in the palm of His hands.

I'm sorry the birthmom is struggling; I prayed for her as well.

You asked what to do. 1) Continue listening to God and telling Him every single thing you are feeling. He cares more deeply than you can imagine; 2) Inform yourself of the laws in your state, and remind yourself of them whenever you are feeling confused or discouraged. I, personally, have never heard of a situation where a birthmom has been able to reclaim her child once relinquishments have been signed, at least not nowadays. Did she sign a consent or a relinquishment?

[mysterybks]

God Bless you! I said a prayer for you. I will be looking forward to hearing what happens. Know that God is in control and will work things out. I know it's hard not to worry, but trust in Him!

Dawn

[kllee4]

I will definitely pray for you and your family during this difficult time. I will also pray for the birthmom. Try to hang in there and love on your son as much as possible. I'm sure that everything will work out just fine and know that you have people in your corner rooting for you!

kllee

[sdbmom]

Hi everyone!
Sorry it has taken so long for me to reply -- I check my e-mail at the library and I haven't been able to get here.
Everything is going well with our case. There was a deposition for the birth mom yesterday and she told the truth. We had an open adoption with her and she was angry because she wanted to see our son every other weekend and we wanted every 3 or 4 months. So she told the lie that we were unfit to get into court. She now says that she just changed her mind when she found out that she could not see him anytime she wanted to (we gave her no indication that she would be able to, she just asumed.) The birth family has really been harassing us for the last two months. Saying things like he is our Ishmael but he is their Issac and a lot of other things along those lines. Birth mom said yesterday that we were not his parent's because she was his mom. It all has been very painful because we did not seek them out. They came to us wanting to know if we wanted the baby.
Our court date is Tuesday, Sept. 14th. Please pray for us and for God's perfect will.
Sorry to ramble on.

[pedpets]

It sounds like things are moving along. It shouldn't be much longer for you and your family, then you can move on with your lives. I'm sorry that the bfamily is acting like this

All this is doing is closing any doors to them for future contact. Thanks for keeping us updated! I will continue to pray for you and your family.

God Bless!
Virginia

[sdbmom]

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR PRAYING FOR US. We went to court on Oct. 12th and the judge said that the relinquishment was valid and that it was in the best interest of our baby to stay with us. Everything that they said against was shown to be in the wrong. Please continue to pray for us for wisdom on how to deal with the birth mom.
Thanks again for your prayers!!!

[Nina24]

Congratuations on your success in court! It is so painful when someone lies about you, isn't it? Fortunately the truth about you was revealed and your precious child is in the right hands.

I can tell you are trying to be patient with the ** and bfamily. Even though it's hard, you're doing the right thing. They are grieving and taking their feelings out on you. I hope with time and reflection they find their own peace.

Enjoy parenting and I hope that things settle down for you!
Take care,
Nina