[davisgaskin]

The last few days I have really been struggling with trusting God's devine plan. God has blessed me so far beyond what I am worthy of yet I some how don't trust what His plan is. My husband and I matched with a birthmom for the second time. Our first one fell through. Now we have been blessed with a second match that just sort of fell out of the sky. We have had a hard time coming up with the money for the adoption on such short notice and that is adding a lot of stress to the situation. Yesterday we recieved news that cicumstances have changed with our second birthmom and I over reacted and did not handel it well at all. I guess I kind of went back to our previous situation and assumed the worse. I made a post on another thread that was unclear and basically rude. In the process I really offended my new adoption facilitator and her assistant. If I had trusted in God's plan the way I should then it wouldn't have upset me so much. If It is God's devine plan for us to adopt this baby then I know it will happen and if it isn't his plan then I guess I will have to accept it and learn to trust in him more. It isn't always easy to accept that God is the one in control & that his plan is best even if it isn't what we want.....Thank you God for your plan and your forgivness of our stupidity.

[KatieMill]

As one who has travelled in these same shoes...more than once...just know that you are not alone...and that He does always supply.

My husband and I are in much the same situation as you...my heart and prayers are with you...pray for us too....

[HappyMomAnna]

First of all asking a question is not wrong--and don't overreact again .... People who work in adoption are used to us being overreactive and emotional at the drop of a hat....
Write a nice Thank You note --short and sweet and mail it off tomorrow.... you don't want to burn any bridges.
Now remeber God never gives us anything we can't handle so--know that you are being made strong.

My fav. Bible verse

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perserverance. Preserverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be givem to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind" (James 1: 2-6)

[amom4life]

I guess some of us He is teaching to trust Him more and others He is teaching patience. I'm the latter. I trust God and His plan and even His timing, but it is so hard to wait on Him!

I teach Sunday School and last week the lesson was on patience and our scripture memory is: Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait I say on the Lord! Psalms 27:14

I also just realized that when I was praying for a scripture to comfort Emily with God gave me Psalms 27:4 I think He's trying to get through to me.
Judy

[davisgaskin]

It is so nice to have found a place with so much support. Thank all of you and thank GOD. Everyday is a miracle and I am sure that someday God will send all of us our own personal little miracle angel. I guess I never thought that it would be so stressful. I think I always imagined it to be so wonderful that nothing about it would upset me. Normally I am a very laid back easy going type of person....I forgot to mention that the baby is due in about three weeks but the rest of our money is due on Monday. I am very glad that God didn't set a time or money amount for him to adopt us or that we have to have an approved homestudy to be accepted.... Thank you all so much!

[MomofKaden]

Oh what a hard time - I know it is just such an out of control feeling and it is hard to keep it together - I am sure I unraveled a few times myself before it was all over...hang in there and practice that humility! Blessings to you - hope everything goes smoothly and you can bring your little one home by Thanksgiving! What a joy that will be!

[saucey95]

Oh I know how emotional it is. I smiled when I read your post because over the past month, I have wanted to pick up the phone and call our caseworker and yell, HEY, WHAT'S UP? WHAT'S TAKING SO LONG!!!!! I had to physically restrain myself from doing it. I have to keep reminding myself that our caseworker is probably very busy and has a huge caseload (we are going through our local Child protective office). Plus, we aren't the only family waiting. So, patience is something I am working on as well.

Next time just take a 5 deep breaths, count to ten and then think about what's happening before you say or do anything.
HappyMomAnna had a great suggestion in a sweet apology card to send to your facilitator and her assistant. I'm sure they understand but do it anyway.

[faith_amom]

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD , "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. - Jeremiah 29:11

God is in control, even when it doesn't seem that way. The good news is that, even when we mess up, God can still guide us where He wants us to go.

- Faith

[davisgaskin]

Everything is coming together. We only have about two weeks left until the baby is due. I asked God for his peace and once again he answered my prayer. I have recieved an over flowing amount of peace. Although We really want this baby we want His will to be done more. Even though it will be extremely difficult for us if we don't get the baby God will answer Our prayer for a child in his time. I want to thank you all for your prayers and support.

[leastofthese]

[u]Although We really want this baby we want His will to be done more.[u]

I love your wise attitude about this! God Bless You!

[davisgaskin]

We have a week left until the due date. Although we aren't sure what will happen we both fill good about the situation.

[paperchasingmom]

Originally posted by davisgaskin
If It is God's devine plan for us to adopt this baby then I know it will happen and if it isn't his plan then I guess I will have to accept it and learn to trust in him more.

Davis,

You are a very wise woman and *****besides what the last poster wrote, (which I don't understand--I realize it was their first post ever but it makes no sense since your original thread/post DID say you would accept God's plan), please know us adoptive moms are all praying for you and we have all experienced what you are going through, we have walked in your shoes and understand how you feel....

Keep your chin up and let us know how things are going!!!

Blessings,

Melody

*****EDITED-PREVIOUS POST BY MARIABELCHER DELETED--That was the post I was referring to....******

[HappyMomAnna]

Yes, we adoptive moms, dads, children and families as well as our Churches do Pray that God's plan for EACH child on earth is what it is......His Plan.
We are with you in this time of waiting!

Do not let the words of hurt people hurt you.

mariabelcher--this is your first post and your profile does not indicate your involvement with Adoption......... It is safe to say you are also now included in the Prayers of my Prayer Circle and Chain as your message to this Waiting Family expresses pain and hurt. Peace be with you.

[davisgaskin]

I started this post out of frustration, sorrow, and the need to vent and apologize. I think it is a wonderful gift from God that we have been given a place to be able to post our feelings and beliefs. We don't have to agree with each others thoughts or opinions. And it is all okay. I have recieved many positive responses to this post many more than I had ever expected. And with that I have to say after quite a bit of thought I have to somewhat agree with mariabelcher. That may come as a shock to
some but let me explaine. There are thousands of children who are need of loving families who unfortunaltly may never have one. There are also infants who need loving families. My husband and I decided to adopt years ago & to become foster parents and adoptive parents. We have been theraputic special needs foster parents for seven years. We have had 27 children live with us between the ages of six weeks and 17 years and of those 27 children we have only had the opprotunity to adopt one. His adoption should be complete in a couple of months. He is a ten year old boy we have had him for two years. We have had children who have been severally sexually, physically, and mentally abused. We have had children with medical problems we had a three year old who was deaf, had C.P. couldn't walk or talk, she had a shunt from her brain to her heart, and was autistic. And we would have adopted her without hesitation if we would of had the chance. We plan to continue to do foster care and we would love to adopt more foster children. I say all this to point out that Just because a family choses to adopt an infant doesn't mean that they do not want to help all of God's Children. IIt just means that at some point they would like to adopt one of God's infants. Yes we may help God's children by adopting one or several of them regardless of the childs age, sex, race,ect. but if it isn't in God's plan then we wouldn't really be doing God's work. God has shown me over and over that he has a plan for my life and everyone else's he has also shown me that he doesn't have one set mold for what a "real family" is supposed to be so who's to say that fostering or adopting older children is in His plans for everyone. I want finish with saying that I do not want this to offened anyone it is just my point of view .

[HappyMomAnna]

davisgaskin--how could anyone be offended? For what ever reason we have been asked to participate in a conversation here...... Some people judge too quickly and that is fine becaue we can hope it all is for the good.

mariabelcher: Being supportive to another families dreams without knowing the whole story is really just a part of what God askes me to do......I didn't need to know anything davisgaskin let us know to offer my prayer to her....because she asked for this support and I give it freely........ I did not know the works davisgaskin has done, I am not sure what has made you think my children were not taken off the waiting lists..... as they were and they were not infants..... but, I have no problem being supportive to anyone who asks in Gods name......

Is there something anyone here might be able to help you with? We are not here to judge each other and someone here might be able to help you if you ask.


p.s. ( It took almost a year of waiting before our children were placed into our home.....we adopted a five year old and her brother.....and it is taking nearly another year to be final.----we waitied a lot!!! It is a myth to think anyone who feels like it can walk in and adopt a Waiting Child.....there is a long long time of waitin....and a lot of hard work.)