[MKBlackwell]

Hello to everyone. I am new to this board and have come looking for support and possibly some answers to my questions.

My husband and I have been told that we may never be able to have children of our own, so we are starting to look into adoption.

But I don't even know where to start. Do I need to hire a lawyer? Do I contact a local adoption agency directly? How much does an adoption normal cost? How long is the process for adopting a new born? 1 year, 2 years?

What criteria does the adoption agency/lawyers look at? We are up to our eyeballs in credit card debt and my husband only works part-time because he draws disability. I work full time with BCBSSC. Will any of this affect us in trying to adopt a child?

Can anyone help me?

God Bless,
MKBlackwell

[Linny]

My suggestion is to check out as many current books about adoption as possible. In answer to 'the costs'.....they can be as varied as $3,000-$30,000. Once you have read up on things.....I'd suggest talking with an attorney (some have free orientations...ours did).....and an agency. An educated decision is the best, as you know.
In regards to your debt.....that will be for you to decide. Certainly, if you go private adoption (private agency or attorney), there will be costs to consider. However, if you go 'older child adoption' through your state system (and rarely there are infants available...but it does happen).......the cost will be free and a monthly stipend is often given to help offset the cost of raising a child with special needs.

Good luck in whatever you decide.


Sincerely,

Linny

[faith_amom]

Well said, Linny!! She said it all. I just wanted to "second" it -- education is key.

- Faith