[vagirl]

After having the adoption agency do a search for my bmom, I discovered a few days ago that she has been deceased since 1975. I am very shocked and sadden by this. I wonder since God didn't provide the opportunity for us to meet here on earth, if he allows us to meet our loved ones/family members in heaven someday?

I know from receiving my non id info that she had a hard time giving me up for adoption in 1965. So I know she cared about me and wonder if maybe if loved ones can watch over us from heaven??

[BlackSheep]

My opinion is that you have had an angel looking over you since 1975. I am sure that we will know all of our family/loved ones in heaven whether we knew them in this life or not.

[SoniaRose]

Sorry that your bmom passed away; I found out last year that my bmom died in 1965 when I was only 11.

I firmly believe that my bmom has always been by my side guiding me in my life. I believe that the soul survives death, and that our loved ones are always with us. I look forward to eventually meeting her on the "other side".

I see that you have posted in the Christian section. Personally, I am more New Age/metaphysical. I have read many books written by mediums who communicate with those in spirit. I can remember at least two accounts where the deceased birth parent has appeared in readings. In one case, the person being read didn't even know he was adopted until the bmom came through (which forced his aparents to finally tell him the truth).

Although a strong belief in the afterlife can provide comfort, it is still horribly sad that we will never know our bmoms here on earth. But our bparents stand by our side whenever we think of them. We are never alone.

Hope you find peace.

[Mom2blessings]

Originally Posted by vagirl

After having the adoption agency do a search for my bmom, I discovered a few days ago that she has been deceased since 1975. I am very shocked and sadden by this. I wonder since God didn't provide the opportunity for us to meet here on earth, if he allows us to meet our loved ones/family members in heaven someday?

I know from receiving my non id info that she had a hard time giving me up for adoption in 1965. So I know she cared about me and wonder if maybe if loved ones can watch over us from heaven??

The Christian view is that if you are both saved, you will both be reunified in heaven! I enjoyed reading 90 Minutes in Heaven. He was declared dead for 90 minutes, and says while he was dead, he went to heaven and was immediately greeted by loved ones...some he never met. I believe that our loved ones who are in heaven can see us even now.

I'm so sorry she passed away before you got to meet her. I imagine she loved you so much.

[MarnieBeth]

Originally Posted by BlackSheep

My opinion is that you have had an angel looking over you since 1975. I am sure that we will know all of our family/loved ones in heaven whether we knew them in this life or not.

I agree, completely.

[Jody M]

I am so sorry to hear about you birth mother's death, so painful to know that you can never have that face to face reunion in this lifetime. I am a reunited adoptee with my birth sisters and found out my birth mother died when I was 18. Of course I grieved for I realized my search had been way to late for meeting her. But in my faith journey I realize that God's ways are not our ways and He alone knows the reasons. I know that she struggled with alcoholism, was homeless when she died and that at 18, I would have been so horrified,confused and likely shamed and not able to separate her circumstances with my own identity. I hope that someday in heaven I will know of her, but I trust God with that. I do treasure her photos and am full of gratitude that she carried me 9 mos, even though at the time she struggled with cancer and a difficult marriage and home life. May God give you peace. I embraced the verse in the bible, Grieve, but not as those who have no hope.
Blessings, Jody