[c_adoptee]

I found birth family 9 yrs ago. Its been an emotional roller coaster..they've rejected me, not sure what to do now?

[bprice215]

You can't do anything now, you found them and for whatever their reason was thay have rejected you. It isn't your fault, you did nothing wrong. Worrying about it will just make you old before your time. I wish you the best of luck no matter what your birth family does.

bprice215

[Mom2blessings]

Originally Posted by c_adoptee

I found birth family 9 yrs ago. Its been an emotional roller coaster..they've rejected me, not sure what to do now?

I'm so sorry. If they've rejected you, THEY must have some issues that they don't know how to deal with. It's not your fault in any way.

Father, I pray right now for you to wrap your loving arms around the person in this post. Father, my earthly father often rejected me...but in You I found loving acceptance. Remind this person that You accept him. Help him to feel Your acceptance.

In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

[RavenSong]

Originally Posted by c_adoptee

I found birth family 9 yrs ago. Its been an emotional roller coaster..they've rejected me, not sure what to do now?

Cindy, could you tell us a little bit more about what's happening between you and your birthfamily? Nine years is a long time to be in reunion to have it suddenly shut down. Were there problems in communications, or hard feelings about certain things? Maybe if we know just a little more about your story, we could give you some advice and/or opinions.

I'm sorry that you're in pain right now. I'm hoping that what you're viewing as rejection turns out to be a misunderstanding instead. Last year, after 17 years in reunion, my son suddenly told me not to contact him ever again. Thankfully, it turned out to be a giant misunderstanding between us...he was assuming how I was feeling about him, and I was assuming how he was feeling about me. Our breakdown in communication led to both of us thinking that the other one was rejecting each other. When my son discovered that it was just a misunderstanding, he opened up the lines of communication, and now we're doing great.

Hang in there, and keep posting here. It helps!

[Jody M]

c-adoptee,
I am so sorry to hear about the breakdown in communication and a relationship with your birth family. That can be very painful and can trigger an adoptee's original feelings of loss and separation and grief. As the previous poster said, it is difficult to comment on your post without having a little detail. All human relationships have their challenges and that includes relationships through adoption.
We'd love to encourage you more if you could briefly share your take on why your birth family has closed the door.
Blessings and peace to you, Jody