[mouschi]

Suppose a husband and wife are in the middle of the adoption process. Suppose that in the middle the husband for some reason or another does not feel right about going through with the adoption -I would love your opinions here - would it be a good call to continue anyway because he loves his wife so much, and doesn't want to break her heart? He KNOWS he will love the child like his own when all is said and done, but is just having major problems with it going through.

[annelisa]

Wow..........I think they need to talk to someone about this.....a professional. I definately do NOT think they should just go along with it unless both parents are 100 % on board. It is hard enough to go through the adoption process "with" both parents on board. It just wouldn't be a good way to start out.

[KarynB]

In my opinion, it depends why he doesn't feel good about it. If it is worry due to money, or career, etc - these are very normal fears that will come and go throughout the process (in my opinion and experience)...however, if it is fears about the adoption itself or wanting a baby (or child) in general then it definitely needs to be openly and honestly discussed, and should not go ahead with until issues are sorted (if they are).

But that's just my opinion!!! Good luck...

[mouschi]

This particular child is 5 years old, does not have a language, is deaf and in another country. The reason the husband is concerned is because of the risks, havoc and stress that can be brought about by bringing this precious child (with a lot of emotional baggage, i'm sure!) into his family

[dscarter]

I hope this helps. You sound as if you have a wonderful heart and love your friends very much. I read your last post. I will say a prayer for your friends. I feel lead to say this, but it may not even pertain to the situation. But, I will say it anyway and perhaps it will help. Sometimes we get mixed up in our friends lives and we should re-evaluate the situation and step back into the background and try another means of support, as in prayer. Prayer for your friend is the best answer. We are called pray. I know that our friends best interest is in our minds and thoughts and actions. But sometimes we can get to involved. Being a listening ear, a prayful mind is really the most support we can offer at times.

You sound as if you care a lot. Pray and God will do the rest. Hugs and may God bless you.