[adopted3x]

At some point in my search, I went to some gov't(?) agency where the legal document was where my birth mom had signed to sever her legal rights to me. On this form, the reason given was "neglect." This was back when out-of-wedlock pregnancy was more taboo that it is now. But, this still angers me that this was the reason they gave on this document. IMO, it was wrong to list that as the reason when my birth mom had planned from nearly the beginning of her pregnancy to place me for adoption.

Has anyone else had this happen? In your records?

[Jody M]

Hi adopted3x! Thanks for posting your question. I do think in decades past there was some wrong doing done in "truth telling" on forms. Sometimes birth parents lied on forms due to shame or family honor and other times agencies directed them to write things- or the agency filled in the blanks from what I have heard. Of course this is NOT true of all agencies or social workers- there were many truthful ones and good workers who were honest. Sorry your papers list that "neglect" was the reason. I was told that my birth mother died in childbirth- (of me) but later found out that was far from the truth- she lived many years past my birth and died homeless. So not sure why that "story" lie was generated. Hopefully the adoption world is much more honest, open and progressive nowadays.
Thanks for sharing and maybe others will share their experiences!
God bless, Jody, adoptee

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[classiccharms]

On my papers it says that my bmom was too young and wanted to pursue a career without the responsibility of raising a child. After recently reuniting with my bparents I saw her papers and all it says is "personal reasons". She was outraged when she saw mine.