[Tigger27]

Do you think or have you ever gotten to a point where you no longer constantly think of yourself as your title of amom, bmom, adoptee, etc.?

I've wondered and thought sometimes if you ever stop having your adoption related title define you as much and just are more yourself without the title or if the title incorporates itself so much that you don't even see it as a separate part of yourself, if that makes any sense.

What do you think?

[pg13209]

No, I am always defined as an adoptee... Day in and Day out no matter how much i just want to be normal. I was recently at my best friends wedding as a bridesmaid.. heard a comment from one of the guests.. " there's Paula you know the girl who was adopted did you hear that she found her bmom? How sad Bruce and Donna must be devastated".. Arrgghhh.. not nice at all.. Even as an adult who is almost 30 there are still issues with trust and bascially if you have issues with that then you have issues with lots of other things as well. I will always be defined as different.. and will always wonder what my likfe would have been like with my bmom. ( probably not an ideal situation by any means) but you still wonder.....

[Tigger27]

Bumping...

[crick]

I don't define myself as an amom in life or even on here really. Yes, I'll clarify for discussion's sake on here but it's not my definition, imo. I don't see my kids and think of myself as their 2nd mom...I'm just mom.

As pg touched on though, others will define our family through adoption in various ways. I know they think it's "cool", but after awhile it just gets tiresome to discuss. I mean, really...let's talk about how great my kids are or their achievements etc., and not focus so much on how we became a family. It IS cool in it's own right, but it's also not something I feel is the coolest or defining aspect of our family.

[JPDakota]

I have never defined myself as an adoptee. Certainly I am and that's part of who I am, but it doesn't define me. I also have never defined myself as an adoptive mother. Again, part of me certainly, but just as certainly not a definition of me. I'm a lot of things, but mostly I'm comfortable in my own skin.