[Kitti]

Ok everyone here it is. In just under 2 weeks I will be driving my daughter 5 hours away to start college. I am then expected to turn around and leave her there in a strange town, with no job, no car,and no family. She is excited beyond belief and I am a wreck. What if she gets really sick, or in an accident, or in a bad situation? What if she needs me? When her sister went to college it was 45 mins away and she could come home whenever she wanted, or I could drive out there once a week and take her to lunch or something if I wanted. I know bajillions of parents do this every year but how in Gods name do I get through this without an ulcer. She is ready, I am not. Last week she showed up with a sticker for the back of my car that says "FSU MOM". I am proud of her, and happy for her but I feel like that sticker might as well say "My daughter goes to college on the moon" If anyone can tell me how to control the nausea, fight the tears, and stop the worry please fill me in. I have not let on to her just how much I am dreading the moment I have to drive away from her because I don't want to put a damper on her joy. I just really hate the thought of her having no one in the area to watch over her or help her find her way on her own. Thanks for letting me vent, I know I must sound crazy.
Kitti

[votemom]

my firstborn (daughter) went off to college this time last year. her school is about 2 1/2 hrs away.

the fact that she was excited and happy made all the difference i think. if she had been homesick and lonely, it would have killed me.

i also had two younger kids at home to keep me going.

i dread when the last one leaves the nest. ugh.

i don't have any advice. it just might be that the anticipation of her leaving will be worse than the reality?? i hope so.

let us know how it goes.

[TOWANDA]

Share in her joy and excitement.
Never worry in advance. 96% of all our worries never come to pass and the other 4% we cannot do anything about.
One of my friends sets me straight by saying, don't dodge the bullets until they come.
You have taught her all the right things now relax
and watch her grow.

If not cry and scream into your pillow when noone is around!

Cat

[votemom]

well, how did it go kitti?

i deposited my daughter this past monday. she just IM'd me saying she was feeling lonely. not what a mommy wants to hear! she's pretty much in an empty dorm as students don't move in until the weekend. she had to go early.

i know she'll be ok. she'll stretch and grow with the highs and lows and peaks and valleys. such is life.

hope you are doing ok!!

[MamaTo6]

Towanda....wonderful words of wisdom. Especially like the "dont dodge the bullets til they come".


Ny child did not go off to school, but he did move himself and his pg girlfriend 11 hours away. My son is 26, but still it was the hardest thing to do.

My grandson is born and they are settled in a different Province where they plan to stay. I am going for a visit the end of September for a few days.

I will always worry and miss my kids. Thankfully the other 5 all live close. (most in walking distance.lol)

[patti Daniels]

I know how you feel. I had to take my daughter on the 19th and drive away and leave her. I helped her setup the dorm room. DD enjoyed my help which was surprizing. She usually is so independent. We stayed until we had to leave. I cryed when I hugged her and gave her a talk about strangers and dark parking lots. She calls and I call everynight. She loves the classes and she likes her dorm roommate. I hope everything is ok for you and your daughter. I never realized what mothers go through. I guess I never thought about the day she would leave. I hate it. I wonder if she was getting married if it would hurt so much. I remember the day I married and moved 300 miles away from my mother. I thought it was the last time I would see my mom. I did get to see her a few times a year. She died at age 63, twenty years after I married. I wish I had spent more time with her. Well let me know how things are with your daughter and how you are doing.

Originally Posted by Kitti

Ok everyone here it is. In just under 2 weeks I will be driving my daughter 5 hours away to start college. I am then expected to turn around and leave her there in a strange town, with no job, no car,and no family. She is excited beyond belief and I am a wreck. What if she gets really sick, or in an accident, or in a bad situation? What if she needs me? When her sister went to college it was 45 mins away and she could come home whenever she wanted, or I could drive out there once a week and take her to lunch or something if I wanted. I know bajillions of parents do this every year but how in Gods name do I get through this without an ulcer. She is ready, I am not. Last week she showed up with a sticker for the back of my car that says "FSU MOM". I am proud of her, and happy for her but I feel like that sticker might as well say "My daughter goes to college on the moon" If anyone can tell me how to control the nausea, fight the tears, and stop the worry please fill me in. I have not let on to her just how much I am dreading the moment I have to drive away from her because I don't want to put a damper on her joy. I just really hate the thought of her having no one in the area to watch over her or help her find her way on her own. Thanks for letting me vent, I know I must sound crazy.
Kitti