[FL_GirlByProxy]

Paige ~ I'm so glad you brought that topic up, I have a theory. I know for me when I worked full time, over 40 hours per week, I was very torn about disciplining my kids, because I saw them for so little time during the day. I did discipline, and overall I think there very good, but it can be a dilemma.

Kat ~ When my kids go to their Nana's, they are ANGELS. Not to worry, it'll be fine!

Well I like this green tea, it's pretty good. I didn't get around to trying it until just this minute. I don't know if there is caffiene in it, I hope not!

Okay, so I watched ER tonight, did anyone see it? Carrie's birthmom showed up as a patient while Carrie was working, so that she could see Carrie. In total, I am not happy with the episode, I am fuming actually. In the end, because Carrie is gay, her birthmom could not accept her, and they parted ways. Television really sticks it to the birthmom, it just never stops. I'm writing a letter, again.

[clion]

Hey You All, I just have to interrupt the train of thought going on. sorry. But I just am bursting with Awesome news to share - my best friend's son (and my Special Godson) was given 2 hours notice this morning and is now in Kuwait ! He is out of Iraq and is on his way Home ! ! ! ! ! He has been there over a year. I'm so excited for him and for all his family.
I am so very, very proud of him - as I am of all those serving in our armed services. I just had to share this with you.

((((Big Higs )))
Carol

[FL_GirlByProxy]

Carol ~ Praise God!! You can pipe in with that kind of news anytime!! My neighbor's son is over there in Iraq, he'll be there for at least 18 months. My heart just breaks for her. I need to get together with her next week, we haven't talked much even though we are neighbors. I don't even know his first name. Anyway, I would like Kristen's class to begin a letter-writing campaign. I will pray for your Godson's safe trip home!! AWESOME!!!

[katnap80]

I know exactly how you are feeling. That is great news..... I am sure all his family is elated and not to mention relieved. My Bdaughter (who I am patiently waiting to meet)is a Captain in the Air Force and was deployed to Afghanistan for 6 months in 2004... and we are just there as Peace Keepers. I too am proud of all our gals and guys (both Canadian and American) that are serving their respective countries. Without them, just where would we be. Clion...enjoy your happy reunion with you Godson.

"K"

[dl]

Clion ~ ABSOLUTELY AWESOME NEWS!!!!! My neighbor's son returned home last month ~ safe and healthy!

It was interesting to hear of his personal experience and his feelings about what the actual solders feel their purpose is ~ their pride, committment and loyalty to each other and to our country and his feelings about the people there. It was very inspiring!!!

You and your Godson's family have every reason to be proud!!!

(((HUGS))) ~ dl

[bwinks]

Hello everyone,

Hope everyone is doing great! Boy have I missed all of you guy's. I see you girls have been so busy around here that I am only going to start with post #76 and move forward so I am so sorry for everything that I have missed and everyone I missed so please forgive me for not saying something to you.

Proxy-I am going to start with your post and go from here so please excuse me if I go off of your post.
-Toby & Stacie-Happy Birthday to You! Happy Birthday to You! Happy Birthday Dear Toby and Stacieeeeeeeeeee, Happy Birthday to you!!! And many more. I'm sorry that my singing sounds like a dying cafe in a hail storm but I love to sign to my friends.LOL
-Sally-I have been praying for you, I hope that all is well and that things have started to get back to normal for you. Love ya girl.
-Chrissy-I am so happy for you that they printed your letter and they didn't take anything out. I have missed you girl. BIG (((HUGS))) sent your way.
-Tigger-I hope you get word soon that they still know how to get a hold of them and you get the answers that you are looking for. You are such a special person. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love YA,
Proxy-Hope you have fun on your little adventure with Jim and the girls. It warms my heart to hear how things are going with Jim and your family. I thank God for his many blessing. I look forward to hearing all about your adventure. Be safe my friend.

L.L.-I like green tea as well. I like hot tea especailly at night right before bed or when I am just laying around relaxing. But wait I haven't had a chance to that one much. LOL

Chrissy-Sounds like another great weekend parting with the neighbors again? I love Chinese food and this sounds like it would be a lot of fun. I have missed you my friend. (((Hugs)))

Paige-I don't blame you for making a graceful exit. I don't think I could do something like that during the week and still be able to go to work the next day.

Jen,L.L. and Sally- I agree with you I have never allowed my children or their friends to speak to me rudely nor will I allow Austin to when he grows up. I believe that children need to know that they have to respect others in order to know how to respect themselves.

Katnap-Thank you so much for not giving up on me and for the great PM's it is so nice to know that I was missed. BIG (((HUGS))) my friend.

L.L.-First of all the real tea from Japan sounds great. As far as expecting your kids to be respectful and help out around the house with chores it something that I have always made my kids do. Even my 19 yr. old who works full time and goes to collage full time. He doesn't have that many thing that he is responsible for during the school year but I think that it is important for them to know that what they contribute to the family counts and that it takes all of us working together to make things work well. It prepares them for the real world and when they are out on their own.

Chrissy-When my son was in the 7th grade he had this friend who just loved me. One day I was bring them home from school and was asking them how school was and they had gotten report cards that day. My son had great grades but his friend didn't I started talking to him about how he needed to improve them how important it was to have good grades so that someday he would be able to get into a good collage. From that day forward I took him under my wing and asked him how I could help him. This went on for years. He couldn't get his parents involved with his schooling and they never came to any of the school activities well when they were seniors in high school he told my son that he thought of me as his second Mom because I was so hard on him and was always there for him. Sorry for the long story but if I hadn't stepped forward and watched out for him no telling what would have happened to him.

DL-hello my friend! I have missed you so much. Let me give you a great Big cyber (((HUG))) Hope you are having a great day.

Cobb-You are welcome to post with us anytime! We love t welcome everyone around here. You will love all the people here they are really nice and full of support.


Proxy-It was so nice talking to you this morning and thanks for the pep talk it really did help. I did see ER which I usually do love but I am with you I didn't like how they did this show either. I would love my children no matter what. I don't care what or who they are as long as they are happy. I just wanted to give Carrie a big hug. And kick her Bmom in the butt and give her a good talking to.

Carol-That is great news. I am so glad to hear that he is on his way home. I had my uncles son over there for over a yr. and I know what you mean about how stressful that can be. We thank God each and everyday for bring him home safe and sound.

Katnap-Yes you are right we all are so proud of our men and women service people. I hope God brings them home safe and sound.

Sweet dreams my friends,
Barbara

[FL_GirlByProxy]

Hi Barb ~ I'm so glad we talked today. And I am ecstatic to see you post here right now. My prayers have been answered today, thank you God. I just checked my email one more time before hitting the sack, and I'm so grateful that I did. I am going to run up to bed now! Love you guys!!

[dl]

(((Barb))) Great to see you posting!! It's always been a great group of supportive caring ladies that have gathered on our thread. Thoughts and prayers continue to be with you!
(((HUGS))) dl

[dl]

Cobb ~ Totally related to your story about your friend that needed a lot of support, which you were happy to give but always had an excuse if YOU needed support.

I had a friend like that too. I helped her move twice after her divorce, was the back-up person her kids would call, went to all her kid's events so she wouldn't have to sit alone ~ school plays, graduations (we all know how fun those are when it's not your kid graduating ), birthdays etc. ~ always with the appropriate gift, drove her to the hospital and stayed with her all night when she had a gall bladder attack etc. etc. Can't tell you how many times in return I heard "Oh, I can't I have a manicure appt.", "Oh, I can't I'm having company this weekend and so much to do" (sounds like your friend), "Oh, 'Friends' is on Thursday night ~ I don't leave the house"(God forbid one should tape it and watch it later!!! ) etc. etc. When my late husband was ill with a very long term illness, she never once so much as showed up with a casserole. I never really put it all together until after the final "event".

The icing on the cake that blew the friendship to heck is after 15 years of my hosting holiday dinners ~ ALL the holidays ~ for a large group of family/friends that I always invited her and her now late teen & early 20's children too ~ and their various "dates", one year I was just not up to hosting Thanksgiving and suggested that we go to a restaurant. My parents had both died, a dear friend of theirs that always joined us had died, I had just spent three weeks in court on a wrongful death case on behalf of my Mother, couldn't take even one day off work to prepare for company as I had just taken three weeks off, was exhausted and just plain not in the mood. Everybody thought it was a great idea except her. She totally whined that she didn't want to go to a restaurant. She actually complained about paying for three while I only had to pay for one. Now she is not financially challanged and regularly goes to restaurants with her kids and treats their friends. I responded ~ "and when I host it at my house do you have any clue what THAT costs???" I suggested that she host dinner at her house. No, she said she didn't want to cook. The rest of us made our reservations. I called her the week before and she claimed she hadn't decided what she was going to do. THE DAY BEFORE Thanksgiving she calls me (not any of the other friends) and says that she's decided to cook but it's a casual pot luck and I can bring whatever I want!!!!!! I responded that we had reservations and she snapped that if I wanted to see her and her children I knew where they'd be and hung up on me!!! Gee ~ never a Thanks for doing it for ALL those years. Just a kick in the you know what for not doing it that year!!!

I'm sure we all have our "friends" stories. You're probably lucky to not be closely exposed as your former friends kids get older. You're right ~ if a child can see it . . . .

[Cobb]

OMG dl!!!!!! I can't even imagine? There's nothing like a crisis to let you know who your "real" friends are... If there is possibly a silver lining (and let me tell you it would have to be a huge stretch to try to see something good in that level of self-absorption) it's that it becomes easier and easier to detect that kind of personality earlier in the friendship.

You know, come to think of it, very few people IRL (only family and lifelong friends) know about Miss A... Seems I weeded them all out when we had the girls... Nothing like a good purge, eh?

I've only known my "friend" for a couple of years, I can't imagine how painful it must have been to have that level of a realization after investing 15!

Hugs to you...

[dl]

Cobb ~ LOL ~ It was actually a 23 year "friendship". Like I said, I never really looked at everything and added it all up until that Thanksgiving when things blew up. Then I started looking back and I couldn't believe how dense I had been. We did things together, she told people I was like her sister and I was the kids "Aunt". As things went along I never focused on who was doing what in a tit for tat sort of way. When a friend needs you ~ you try to be there. The "No's" I received in return were spaced out and I just didn't focus on them ~ was frustrated a couple times as to me some of the excuses were pretty lame, but I just brushed it off. BUT, as we know, hindsight is 20/20 and boy does everything present a clear picture when viewed in hindsight after you've been burned!!!

You're right ~ it does make it easier to spot that type of personality. Fortunately this is the only person I've been close with that has demonstrated this.

It's sort of funny when people ask ~ what happened to so & so ~ and I reply that we're not friends anymore because I didn't provide her with Thanksgiving Dinner one year. Sure doesn't put her in a very good light!!!

[Camie]

Jusin' popin in to ask a quick question to be answered: has anybody ever had a Molar Pregnauncy"

[dl]

Camie ~ Sorry, no I've never even heard of that. I read your post on another thread and am very sorry for your situation.

[dl]

Wanted to be the first at Truvy's Place to offer
Toby 30 & Cobb

A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!

[jenniperg]

Oh man, I have so much to say on this "friend" thing - too bad I don't have the time right now!

And I have to say, it's really nice to hear that I am not alone in being and "old school" mom. Sometimes I really feel like I am one of the only ones in my town. Hey, my kids and I are not perfect, but respect goes both ways and it's a priority in our home.

Happy birthday Toby 30 and Cobb!