[kakuehl]

Hi J,

Good to get the update! Where are you moving to now (Did I miss that?)

I don't have much to add... I'm still in something of a funk... Waiting to see what the synod "team" has to say in it's report to my one congregation. Plus I've really got a bug now! I wasn't sure I was going to make it to church this morning.. I'm glad I did, I need my time in worship!

[katnap80]

Wow...JULIE....you sure have a right to be a PROUD mama. sorry to hear all is not sweet in your life, but keep a positive attitude and hopefully there will be a change in your situation. Good luck with the adoption proceedure....a baby boy...woohoo.
Keep me updated.....

BIG HUGS!!

"K"

[lyndalou]

Hi All, We just endured Hurricane Noel here. Nothing too startling, a few trees down & wicked waves! Find me on Facebook to see photos! Julie, it was nice to read about your daughters. I hope your B'daughter comes around again. I remember you being a tad critical of her & her lifestyle about a year ago. Is my memory serving me right? Maybe she picked up on that. Again, maybe it was something your sister said. Sisters can be like that. Yours seems to be putting you through the ringer. I have one like that too. Luckilly she is one of 6 sisters that I have & for the most part, they are great. Communication is hard to maintain when one is in a new relationship I find. Mine with my b'son is constantly changing. I used to call weekly. Religiously. Now, only when the mood strikes, yet I feel closer to him than ever. I've let go of a lot of issues that were weighing me down. It's amazing how reunion relationships mature over the years. Patrick is a great guy & I love him to death. I try to be supportive of the decisions he & his wife make. Good to hear from all of you!

[julie23]

I hope your B'daughter comes around again. I remember you being a tad critical of her & her lifestyle about a year ago. Is my memory serving me right? Maybe she picked up on that

hhmmm... well, i certainly disagreed with alot of her choices... hopefully, she didn't view me as critical of her, as a person... because i'm not. However, alot of her self-destructive lifestyle made me uncomfortable....

i don't know why she has done the things she's done... and i probably never will... which is okay.

i am working on letting go.... a very hard thing for me to do.... as many fellow birthmothers would understand, this is a human being that has never been far out of my thoughts... someone i have thought of everyday since the day she was born..... and that is a hard thing to let go of.... but i'm working on it...

i'm glad things are good with your son, lynda... that must be amazing... something to treasure, for sure!

j

[lyndalou]

Hello All, We've all been out of touch since last year, so how about checking in just for old times sake? I for one, would love to hear how everyone is doing! xo

[kakuehl]

Hi, I was a "Johnny come lately" on this thread, but it's good to see someone post. Since I've now been here several years, it's been interesting to watch threads be very active and then fade.

I just had the privilege of baptizing D's 3 young children.

[Mil]

Wow Kathy - that had to be an amazing experience! How neat!

LyndaLou, I've wondered about some of the people on this thread quite often. I often think of SeaCritter. Also I have an email for LeeAnn and often wonder what's happening with her and her son.

My reunion with my son is still wonderful. It too has progressed to where it can be quiet for a little while and I don't get scared anymore. Then all of a sudden I see him and talk to him lots. It's to the point where we're very secure.

Our daughter Miranda got married this summer and my sons Randy (bson) and Michael were ushers. My grandsons (Randy's kids) were Jr. groomsmen. Aunt Miranda was so happy to have them in the wedding. If I can, I'll attach a picture of them. There was one Jr. Bridesmaid and she walked between them. My grandsons are now 9 1/2 yrs. old - they were 2 when I met them. The last year or two they've been asking questions about who's who in their family and now know that I'm Randy's mother. They've always called me Grandma, but never really realized where everyone fit in. Randy's adoptive parents were also at the wedding.

Miranda and Michael have both posted different places looking for their birthparents, but haven't really done anything more than that. I've looked around at different sites to see if anyone is looking for them, but that's about it. I'd kind of like to look a little further, but backed off, deciding that this was something they need to do when they're ready. Miranda just turned 22 and Michael is 19 1/2. They have plenty of time.

That's about it - hope others check in. Thanks for reviving this, LyndaLou. Glad all is well in your world. How is your newest grandbaby doing? Miranda is thinking about giving me another grandchild in the near future. That's so exciting!

[julie23]

hey everyone.... i miss this thread! and all our good friends....

we are in Kentucky now.... i think i was in pennsylvania when this thread got started... and now... two moves later... kentucky!

and we have a new baby .... GIRL! sometimes things are just meant to be.... i'm the proud mama of four daughters....

i continue to be disconnected from the daughter i relinquished.... and although it is very sad... i also have peace with it... and I spend my energy focusing on the four girls i am raising... and my wonderful husband....

i hope more people post with updates....

julie

[FL_GirlByProxy]

Hi Everybody!!

It's great to see posting on this thread. I have been away from the forum for such a long time. I miss it.

We are all good here. The kids are great. Kristen is in
8th grade and Eric is a senior. Jim, my birthson, is doing super. He is working and studying (I hope) for his plumber's exam. Jim recently found his birthdad, with a little help from me. Everything has gone fantastic. His birthdad is walking in the clouds still. They have tons in common.

My husband continues to be my steady as he goes great guy. If it weren't for him, my current adventure would not be happening.

I am finishing up a master's in elementary education. I am student teaching right now. It's kind of stressful, but so much fun. I'll be done in December and looking for a teaching position, 2nd, 3rd or 4th grade. The whole thing will have taken 16 months, not too bad.

I've got to run and do some grading. I will look for pictures to post this weekend. I'm hoping to see more folks checking in!!

[Mil]

Good to see some people checking in. I did try to post a couple of pictures last night, but couldn't. Maybe I'll try again later.

I no longer work at the preschool, I'm now working as a supervisor at Christopher and Banks, a ladies clothing store. I'm enjoying it, as the other ladies that work there are close in age and we have a lot of fun. Off to shower and work.

[Twin Sis]

Telepathy!!! That's all I can chalk this up to. I haven't logged on in over a year and just today decided to check in. And I see it has been revived just a few days ago. It's nice to hear from all of you. We're doing fine. My son turned 3 recently and I can say I've come to a place of peace about the passing of his twin.

Originally Posted by julie23

hey everyone.... i miss this thread! and all our good friends....

we are in Kentucky now.... i think i was in pennsylvania when this thread got started... and now... two moves later... kentucky!

and we have a new baby .... GIRL! sometimes things are just meant to be.... i'm the proud mama of four daughters....

i continue to be disconnected from the daughter i relinquished.... and although it is very sad... i also have peace with it... and I spend my energy focusing on the four girls i am raising... and my wonderful husband....

i hope more people post with updates....

julie

WOW! Congratulations on your baby girl. That is just awesome. I was so heartbroken back then for you.

It's amazing that you can find peace in your life. I'm happy for you.

Shirleyville, I've been wondering how you're doing. And the rest of you, I hope you check in.

[RiverGal]

Woohoo!!! This is like a great reunion...all the folks I had come to know so well over the years. I also think of you ladies often and wonder how things are going in your lives.

I have managed to build a comfortable (albeit slow) relationship with my birth daughter. We exchange myspace messages on holidays and have shared pictures...she has a lovely family. She is opening up more and has even asked some questions lately. Just seeing her pictures was a real gift. We do look very much alike.

Here's a real shocker: I am GETTING MARRIED in the spring to a wonderful, kind, brilliant, talented, patient, gorgeous man who I have been with for just over a year. Because of his encouragement and inspiration, I've been getting back into art...actually quite heavily. It feels so good to be creating again...like finding a lost part of myself that I have missed.

Sounds like everyone is doing well. I am so happy to see the familiar names that have been such a big part of my life.

(((HUGS TO ALL)))
~Deb

[Twin Sis]

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am SO pleased to hear that she is opening up to you a bit. You deserve it.

Congratulations on getting married. That is just awesome!

And I so understand that finding a lost part of yourself again. Sounds like you're doing great.

[shirleyville]

Hey There, Everybody!!

It's been ages, hasn't it?

New babies.....baptisms.....impending marriages!!! Pretty awesome stuff happening!!

I am on my way out the door right now to spend some time with my God Daughter, but I will be back this weekend to check in further!!!

Until then ---

Hugs,
Sally

[RiverGal]

Lyndalou ~ How is your painting going? I'd love to see some new stuff. You always inspired me...although the beauty of your work is still a bit intimidating...a true master of the beauty!

Kathy ~ Wow! Just WOW!!! What a look of pure joy you have! That must have been a real defining moment. Glad to hear all is going well!

Mil ~ Goodness! The boys are 91/2! Where in the world does time go??? Happy for you that things have reached a comfortable point where you don't feel the old panic during the quiet times. Hope you get that other grandbaby!

Julie ~ The girls are beautiful...like their mom. As I looked at the picture, it blew me away! Seems like just yesterday that the girls were still so little and now they are so darn grown up...especially *T*...and so precious. Glad to hear you are doing well and so happy. You deserve it, my friend. When in the world did you move to Kentucky??? How is your niece? Are you in contact with her?

LeeAnn ~ Congrats on getting your degree! You have a gift with children and now you can use that gift to make a difference in many lives. So glad to hear that your relationship with Jim has continued to grow and that he has been able to meet his biofather. I am still trying to located Jenn's bdad, but so far every lead has turned out to be just one step behind him.

Twin Sis ~ I am so glad that you have finally reached a place of peace. I know it's been a long, difficult, bittersweet process, but time does tend to lessen the acuteness of the ache. Some things we never get over, but we strive to find the way through the loss.

Thank you for your kind words! It still amazes me to look back on my life when I first came to this site and then see it today. My reality is WAY different. There's been bumps and bruises along the way, but life is good...in fact, life is terrific! "Behind every dark cloud..."

I just sent an email to Sally letting her know that the thread is breathing again. I know she usually goes to spend the night at her Goddaughter's house on Fridays, so it may be tomorrow before she checks the emails.

How is the weather for everyone? Florida is like Alaska right now. I am about to freeze slap to death. This weather is just not normal...and I HATE it! Hope everyone is staying warm.

~Deb