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02-15-2009, 06:42 PM
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Saying goodbye!
We finally made our decision to write the letter to withdrawn our application. In my heart, I was already there but my husband still needed to come to terms with it.
This weekend we had a heart to heart and decided that we couldn't hold on to something that wasn't going to happen for us. We need to close the door so that another one can open. I just finished writing our withdrawal letter, which I will submit tomorrow. After this post, I'll be deleting all my links for all adoption sites (including RQ - it will be soooo hard!!) and looking towards what our future holds. I'm finally at peace with it. Sad, but at peace with our decision. I want to wish all of you still waiting for your forever families, the best of luck and God speed to your little ones! 
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#2
02-15-2009, 07:30 PM
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I am glad you are at peace with your decision and I wish you the best in the future!
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SpecialK  Community Moderator Not-so-Angry Adoptee and Mama to one adopted from China DH HunnyB   
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02-15-2009, 09:45 PM
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WOW. Sad to see another leave, but glad you've made peace with it.
I hope everything works out for you. I think if we were considering other facets of being a family, we would also leave the program so that we could go on with our lives. It must have been a very difficult decision, but one that will give you closure.
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Karen Gotcha Video _________________________________________________ 11/25/04 Decision to adopt our first daughter 03/14/05 LID for our first daughter 01/29/06 Referral for our first daughter (total time from LID to referral-10.5 months) 03/20/06 Our first daughter in our arms 12/12/06 Decision to adopt again 04/14/07 LID for our second daughter 04/14/08 ONE year waiting 09/1/08 Re-submitted paperwork before it expired 04/14/09 TWO years waiting 04/27/09 Out of review room  06/14/09 Fingerprinted again, before they expired Still waiting... How long is forever? -381 LIDs till our referral- That's how long forever is! We've been waiting 31 months since our Log-In-Date with China
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02-15-2009, 10:12 PM
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I am sorry to read your note, but I hope that the future is bright and holds good things for you.
Amy K, NJ
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Adopted baby Joanna from Tver Region 10/06
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02-15-2009, 10:27 PM
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Best of luck to you. It's sad to see you reach this decision, but we're glad you are at peace with it.
Your LID is the same as ours, so we can't even image what you must have been going through. We don't know what we would be thinking if we hadn't gone the SN route and ended up with Jake. This wait is just so hard for so many people. Best wishes for the future. Kevin and Violet
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KEVIN AND VIOLET (Piper is just our horse  )********************************** 10/14/06: Attended workshop. 10/26/06: Application approved! 01/04/07: I600A mailed off! 01/05/07: Everything certified but I-171H. 01/17/07: Everything authenticated but I-171H. 02/02/07: Fingerprints taken. 02/28/07: Received I-171H 03/14/07: DTA 03/16/07: DTC 04/04/07: LID 04/23/08: LOI 04/28/08: PA 07/02/08: LOA 08/04/08: TA 10/02/08: Travel 10/05/08: Gotcha Day 10/14/08: CA 10/16/08: Home http://our-leap-of-faith.blogspot.com/ 
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02-16-2009, 05:59 AM
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Hi,
I'm very happy for you that you have found a path that brings you comfort and peace of mind. Like others, I'm sad to see doors shut for families. I've seen it happen so much in the past 2 years in the China, Vietnam and Taiwan programs. Like all these families, I hope that another door opens and you are able to continue to build your family. Best of luck.
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Melissa dh-Bill dd-Lilianna Mei ds-Andrew Joseph
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#7
02-16-2009, 08:58 AM
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Curious
Just curious-
Why do people send a letter of withdrawal in? I mean, if there will be another 3 year wait, alot could happen to speed things up, slow them down, change in your family life, etc. If I wanted to or needed to drop out, I doubt I'd write a letter till much closer to the referral time frame, in case I changed my mind or whatever. Just curious- couldn't figure that one out- unless of course it's for closure or to get out of "line" for others. GOOD LUCK! Melissa
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DTC October 5, 2006 LID October 27, 2006  ********************* Life is what you make it. Make it SPECTACULAR!!
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02-16-2009, 01:33 PM
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Just guessing here, that it's a matter of closure. If you are sure that you're persuing other avenues to continue your family, and know that this is not the avenue, why keep it logged in? I think it's also the decent thing to do for CCAA, to keep them from having to continue to file paper work that will go nowhere. And the decent thing to do for others behind you. But, mostly, I would do it for closure.
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Karen Gotcha Video _________________________________________________ 11/25/04 Decision to adopt our first daughter 03/14/05 LID for our first daughter 01/29/06 Referral for our first daughter (total time from LID to referral-10.5 months) 03/20/06 Our first daughter in our arms 12/12/06 Decision to adopt again 04/14/07 LID for our second daughter 04/14/08 ONE year waiting 09/1/08 Re-submitted paperwork before it expired 04/14/09 TWO years waiting 04/27/09 Out of review room 06/14/09 Fingerprinted again, before they expired Still waiting... How long is forever? -381 LIDs till our referral- That's how long forever is! We've been waiting 31 months since our Log-In-Date with China
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02-16-2009, 01:57 PM
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I've also seen folks leave because they were adopting from a country that didn't allow concurrent adoptions. I know China does, but some countries don't.
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Melissa dh-Bill dd-Lilianna Mei ds-Andrew Joseph
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02-16-2009, 07:08 PM
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saying good bye...
Best wishes for a bright future........ Karen
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02-16-2009, 07:12 PM
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Best of luck to you.
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February 2005: Filed Formal Application April 2005: completed Home Study visits June 2005: Filed I-600A July 16, 2005: Fingerprints done! August 26, 2005: Home study sent to BCIS! October 18, 2005: I-171 Arrived! November 7, 2005: dossier to agency!! November 11, 2005: DTC!!  November 22, 2005 LID!!!!!!!! DOR September 4, 2007!!!!!!!  Forever Family Day: October 29, 2007!!!!!!!  
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#12
02-20-2009, 05:38 PM
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I am so sorry!
 It breaks my heart to see families drop out after all they've been through to even get here and meanwhile, children are still waiting.Good luck!
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Rachel (34) , Chuck, (45)  , Sophie (6 bio) Margaux  born in Fengcheng, Jiangxi, China on 4/29/06 in our arms forever on 2/25/07http://www.sophieandmargaux.blogspot.com/
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02-22-2009, 07:08 AM
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Blessings to you and best of luck!
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Ashley 03/24/08: Mailed Application 04/03/08: Application approved 04/10/08: Mailed contract 04/18/08: Started Paperchase 05/24/08: Met with SCWKer 06/05/08: Mailed paperchase documents 06/11/08: Homestudy completed and notarized 06/16/08: I800A mailed off 07/28/08: Receipt for I800A received 08/04/08: Fingerprint appt. received 08/14/08: Fingerprints at USCIS 09/24/08: 1st Inquiry about I800 Status 10/08/08: 2nd Inquiry about I800 Status 10/24/08: I800 Under Review 10/24/08: 2 revisions needed 10/31/08: Mailed Revisions 11/06/08: I800 Approved! 11/26/08: DTC! 12/15/08: LID!
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#14
02-25-2009, 09:54 AM
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I agree.... make up your minds then just do nothing. We let everything expire and only starting renewing things when they finally got to a couple months before our LID. While everything sat expired there wasn't anything we had to pay or file. I800 approval in now just running about 30 days.
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