[tinkerbell11599]

I'm bouncing over from the Korean board but wanted to post this on here. If you feel like you can help, please contact this mother directly. They are looking for a match for their daughter. If you have seen this before in your travels, I'm sorry.

Jen



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Hi, Everyone,
I wanted to pass this on to you all, with family blanket permission for other agencies/groups to route and do the same to try to help this family find a match for their daughter. Please pass this along to friends/family so that it can circulate in hopes of finding a match for this little girl.

If you think you maybe able to help, please contact Monica Miya****a directly.

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My daughter Lydia was adopted from Guangdong Province China on July 5, 2004. In August 2008, she was diagnosed with AML, a very pernicious and deadly form of leukemia. With the help of her Chinese-born doctor, we were able to locate her birthparents and some of her siblings in China that her family kept. We know she had at least two sisters older than she (born somewhere between 1993 and 2002) who were also abandoned. The birthparents have refused to assist with her bone marrow transplant, even though two of her already found siblings were a match. We are now looking for these other potential siblings to see if they were adopted and might also be a match.

Lydia is part of the Hakka ethnic group, and so a match from someone other than a relative is unlikely because of her unique, almost bi-racial typing. Lydia has classic Hakka features: "Brooke Shields" eyebrows, and rather full lips and a round face. Photos have been posted of Lydia and her birth family on the Caring Bridge website.

Thank you for any assistance you may be able to lend.

Blessings,
Monica Miya****a

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[mcanvasback]

I was just about to post this, saw it on the Kyrgyzstan group. We will pray for this little girl.

[KarenInCa]

I responded to this already on another forum, but I have to say, if I were the girl's parents, I would be so frustrated with the birth parents for denying to help.
Hopefully, they have offered the birth parents money and a good translator to advise them of the low risk involved.
I realize there's reasons that they might not want to help, but no reason can justify this in my mind. It would be such a wonderful gift and a healing process for all.

Our daughter is from Anhui Province, so I seriously doubt there would be a match with the ethnicity of this particular child. But she is heavy on my thoughts.

[sak9645]

Bone marrow transplants must seem like witchcraft to the birth relatives -- just totally incomprehensible. They are almost certainly not as tuned in to medical advances as we are, and it could take months for them really to understand and accept what people are telling them.

I do not fault them for reacting negatively. Money and a translator aren't going to help people who just don't comprehend, based on their experience, that this strange treatment could be lifesaving. It takes time, information, and simply coming to terms with the fact of the child's illness. I just wish that the child had enough time to wait for the family to process the information. Alas, she doesn't.

Also, you do have to understand that bone marrow transplants do not work all the time. Many kids die, despite having had them. I've met kids at our local Children's Hospital who had the transplants and did not survive, though I'm also aware that many did. It is possible that the birth relatives don't want the child to suffer through medical procedures that might not work. In many populations, it is considered more humane just to let a person slip away peacefully, with pain control medicine.

Sharon

[MissyAmomChina]

Hi,

I would also suggest connecting with the Taiwanese adoption community. Hakka is an ethnic minority in Taiwan as well. In fact, I can think of families who have children who are Hakka.