[mkinzie]

We are 14 months since LID today. I'm putting a cake here b/c I'm trying to put a positive spin on this. It's our 14 month birthday. Just when I think I'm becoming used to the fact that we have been waiting sooooooooooo long it hits me right in the face that this wait is endless! I'm praying that we get a referral by end of Feb/beginning of March but I'm terrified to even begin to hope for a time. I want to buy the crib but I'm afraid it will somehow send out bad karma and delay us even further! I feel for the more recent LIDs because if rumors hold true your wait will be twice as long as ours will be. That's rough!

Anyway, I'm going to predict that my baby girl was born in April. Why? I just have this feeling that she was and that is why we have had to wait for her so long. There's a reason, though. My mom (Gram-she adopted me when I was 10 months old) passed away at the beginning of April. I was very lucky to have had such a great mother, and I was very, very, very close to her. Of course I was devasted when she died. I still am. I posted here about how sad I was about it. I remember someone posted me and said something that has been such a comfort to me. She said that Gram would be able to help pick out the perfect baby for DH and me now. That has helped me so much through the wait! Now I think wouldn't it be great if she was there when our baby girl was born & watching out for her during this endless wait? I know this sounds weird but it is helping me with this wait so I'd like to believe that it is true.

Do any of the rest of you ever get a vibe as to when your little girl is born or is it just me?

[Karen in MT]

I must reply. As you are probably also waiting for someone else to share. I spent last night dreaming that I was in China and over and over again, I kept telling myself to remember that I found out my daughter is 5 months old. Well, we are 5 months since LID. Anyway, I think whatever gives you comfort and help with this wait, LET IT BE! We are spiritual........ I know that just about the time you think that you can wait no longer, you will be holding your daughter in your arms and the angels above will be celebrating as well as others watching over you! Blessings to you. -Karen

[ttcasey]

Melissa,
I am only 4 months into my LID so I try to keep any predictions to myself. Sometimes I do though think about that there is a little girl that is waiting for us to come pick her up! With regards to the crib, go with your heart. I have a friend who is lending me her crib. She keeps on wanting to bring it over and I say, not yet.....

[smbcpc]

Melissa,
We are almost 14 months since LID and I have also been thinking about when our child was born. I hope that our referral will come in February and my prediction is that she/he is a June baby. I suggest that you go ahead and buy a crib since you may not have much time to shop for everything after you get the referral. We were very picky with the crib and found one that we liked some time after LID but it took us a while to find the "right one". We have been shopping ever since. Good luck!

[mkinzie]

I think I will get a crib soon. I am having a hard to choosing because many cribs are not sturdy enough for me. Many of the stores say they shake because they are floor models but I am suspicious. Also, one of the last referral groups from our agency received children who were walking! Can babies climb out of the crib? I have no experience with this so this worries me, too. Finally, many people say they bought the crib with the toddler bed and then never used it. I can't decide whether or not to get a crib with a toddler bed or not. So many decisions!

[cungar]

We bought a toddler bed for our 16 month old who will be coming home on January 5. We figure if it doesn't work out and she needs a crib we can always buy one when we get back.

[smbcpc]

We bought the crib that converts into a toddler bed. If we need to use the crib "setting" (before the toddler bed) we will lower the mattress to the lowest level so the baby cannot climb out. It looks like it is low enough.
I would be curious to know what other people bought.

[oleson1]

I did the same thing as you while I was waiting. March 2005 just felt like the month my daughter was born.

I was close... she was estimated to be born February 18, 2005 and found in April of 2005. So, I figure, March was probably the month that her birthmom was sending vibes to me that I would be the one to care for our daughter.

That gave me a starting point to journal and bond with my daughter. Giving her a "date of birth" in my mind was a great way to start our relationship. You have an extra special reason to choose the month that you did and maybe Gram is up in heaven waiting to bless you with a miracle in the accuracy of the timing...

[mommy2B2Nina]

We aren't even LID yet, but we do have two bio boys so w/ regards to crib/toddler beds- our first DS was out of the crib and into the toddler bed at 23 months. Our second DS was out of his crib at 17 months. it really depends. Our 2nd DS is taller and was trying to climb out, so we switched him. The ped told us to move them out of the crib when the top railing of the crib is in line with the nipple line. We also got a crib that converted to a toddler bed but never used it but for the crib. DH got rid of the crib, DS #1(age 4) is in a full bed, and DS#2 (21 mos) is still in the toddler bed. We are getting a new, "girly" crib once we get our referral....
Hope this helps.

[Jdubs03]

Melissa,

I wanted to post and let you know it's not just you. I too would wonder whether or not our daughter has been born. Then in November, I began to get a very strong feeling that she was being welcomed to this world. I'm not sure exactly what it was, but something in my heart was telling me that she was being born. And then I started thinking if it could be possible, and here is where my wondering got me...

First, a little backround. Like you, I too lost someone very important to me this year. On January 28, my Grandfather passed away. My grandparents hadn't officially adopted us, but my sister and I spent most of our time with them growing up. Needless to say, they were a very important part of who we became as adults.

I then began to look at the numbers. If my daughter were conceived around the time of his death or shortly there after, and you apply an approximate 40 week justation period, then that would put my daughter being born sometime in the beginning of November. To compound that, November is a very significant month for us anyway. My birthday is on Nov 9. Both my husband's birthday and my grandparents wedding anniversary are on November 13. So, I may not have it down to the day, but I wouldn't be entirely surprised if it weren't the 13. In any case, I think that my grandparents were able to spend some time with her before she was conceived.

So... after my long story, you will see that you are not alone in your thinking. And it just seems to comfort me to know she is in the world and waiting for us to get to her.

[Amysue1112]

Popping over from the Russian board..hope that is ok...

We waited a longggg 19 months for a referral...we travelled in March of 06 and lost her in-country (mother did not want her adopted..but did not want her either ugh). So we were offered our sweet Hannah (she had just become adoptable that week). We brought her home in June and have never been happier! IF we had travelled any sooner, our sweet angel would not have been offered to us. And get this...we found out that her "guesstimate" conception date was THE DAY we started our adoption process! She was meant to be our child.
I know the wait does not make sense now...but if your child was ready to come home (or able) they would be calling you. When you bring home the child meant for your family, it will all be worth it!

Hang in there!!!!!! And btw, there is nothing wrong with dreams! Our dreams are what make all of us fight and endure for our children!

Amy