[WaitingMom22]

Or men of course, lol. I have not been on here in a while since my own plans for adoption were put on hold indefinately (I am pregnant) but one of my closest friends is in the process of filling out the paperwork and I am going to write a letter of recommendation for her and her husband. Anyone know what exactly should be in the letter or know where I could see a sample one? I know that they will be great parents and she is adopted and has always wanted to adopt but I want to make sure that I cover everything that I should in the letter. Oh, and they are not adopting from China because they are too young but you ladies have always been so helpful. Thanks!

[elemomma]

I haven't ever seen a sample one, but if I were you, I just write a letter from your heart. In the later state how you met, how long you have known each other, then pour out all the positive things you can think of. Make sure you include the statements you said above about how you know they would make excellent parents. These letters are for the homestudy agency and normally are not seen by anyone else. If it is a domestic adoption, and a potential birth mother could be reading it then include something about how you personally can't wait to be there for the family when they come home with their baby, this will let her know that the couple has supportive friends who are willing to pitch in and help. But most of all, just pour out your heart. I read the one my mother wrote, and it was awful and they still let me adopt.

[specialk4b]

My agency didn't ask for letters, but had a form to fill out with some kinda odd questions. That means I don't have a sample for you, but I would think that a heartfelt letter would be most effective. Things to include:

How do you know them? (from church, neighborhood, etc)
How long have you known them?
What have you observed about their relationship - giving, loving, trusting, etc.?
Have you observed them interacting with children?

I'm sure you can take it from there!

[InionGrinn]

I wrote a letter of recommendation for my neighbors (adopting from China), about a year ago.

Its on my work computer or I'd pm it to you, sorry.

I recall putting in there how long we'd known each other... how good of friends they were... their relationship with their current child, their relationship with each other.

I said that I would trust them to care for my children if I had to be somewhere....I did speak from the heart and I also mentioned my connection to adoption and how I thought they were very sensitive to the topic and I knew they were the type of people to celebrate their new child's culture and be open about her adoption and were educating themselves in these areas.

I'm sure whatever you say will be fine! Good luck!

[Ready2bparents]

I sent you a PM.