[Happy2Bhere]

Well, I am frustrated!
Our social worker sent in our home study to the agency, meanwhile, we went about getting everything certified & authenticated. The agency wanted an change, some wording in one paragraph, which was no big deal, the social worker just retyped it, and then had everyone swap out the page.
So, I get working on everything, trying to get our dossier finished, in a hurry, since it seems like every week waiting to get a LID, makes for another 5-6 weeks wait on referrals.
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I was excited to have our dossier reach the agency on August 21. They did the critical review & called that Thursday to say everything passed the critical review, except the home study. They requested changes from the social worker.
Here it is, Sept 11, and I just heard from the agency, the changes they made still were NOT good enough, so the social worker needs to redo them again. (It was an issue with the notary this time)
I know, especially on Sept 11, I should be VERY thankful for alot of things, but I can't help but be frustrated. If the agency had the dossier department look over our home study, enough to ask the social worker to change wording in a paragraph, why is it now, SEVERAL weeks later, when everything is certified & authenticated, that they are wanting MORE changes?
How frustrating.
Just had to vent :-(
Melissa

[specialk4b]

Melissa - how awful that you're having to do all this at the eleventh hour.

Sorry you have to go through this.

Vent away here - we more than understand how you're feeling.

[Lissa]

You vent all you need to! Just because this is a day of rememberance doesn't mean the world stops. It continues and that is a beautiful thing!

As for the frustrations. I know. I remember when we were sure we were going to be DTC on Dec 23 and on Dec. 24 we found out we had outdated medical forms and needed to get all our medical redone. X-mas eve and all I wanted to do was bawl. We had to scramble and it made our DTC move to the next month.
The differences were miniscule in the forms and my agency told me they may pass me through the matching room, but why take a chance? And I knew they were right. Yes, it's frustrating...but ultimately it makes the whole thing smoother at the time that really counts.
Hang in there!

[Petsitter]

Melissa,

I know how frustrating that it can be, believe me. We are waiting on our 171 and every day I run to the mailbox, and everyday, nothing! But just remember, everything happens for a reason. Maybe your baby just isn't ready yet. Look at Lissa, if she had been DTC in December, she may not have beautiful Miss Lydia! And wouldn't that be horrible

Hang in there. And try to keep smiling, knowing that when your baby is ready, it will all fall in to place!

Peace,
April

[Jdubs03]

Melissa,

Feel free to vent away! We have all been there, and this is a good place to turn for support. We has some HS issues too, but luckily I found them while I was waiting for my fingerprinting appointment. But, I still spent about 3 + weeks going back and forth with our SW to get stuff fixed. They were small things (like the wrong name of the town we were married in), but I didn't want to take ANY chances with the docs not matching. Lucky (or scary), the USCIS didn't notice the differences (I didn't find them until after I sent them my HS). In any case, it will get fixed and you will be DTC just in time to get the little girl who is meant to be your daughter!

Hang in there and vent anytime!

[Happy2Bhere]

Thanks everyone for the kind words.
I am the FIRST person to tell OTHER people "Things happen for a reason" Now I got to remember to apply it to myself!
I know the first time around adopting, things DID happen for a reason, and our little angel is who we were meant to have!
It's just frustrating.
Thanks again-
Melissa

[Happy2Bhere]

I wrote an email to my agency asking WHY the problem with the home study- since they "reviewed" it once, and told the social worker what corrections it needed, and said it looked fine. Then, when it went to the critical review, it "suddenly" need a BUNCH of changes. A lady called & kept going in circles saying "it happens" or "we need to see the WHOLE dossier to get a better understanding"
I know things happen for a reason, and that is fine, but for an agency to put in writing "You don't need to submit anything to us before you submit your dossier, unless you want it reviewed before certification & authentication" so they get my home study, review it, then 6 weeks later, when I thought all was fine, I hear it isn't fine.
I know I already posted most of this in my first post, but I was hoping to at least get some satisfaction from the agency from my email, but instead, I get a lady with an attitude, saying "I'm glad to hear your comments" "We'll take it in advisement"
Whatever. The daughter that is MEANT to be with us, will be with us, whenever it is meant to be, so I guess I should thank the agency for the delay

[pvnew]

I know it is hard to believe, but someday, you may be thanking the agency for the delays. Once your child is in your arms, you will say...if it wasn't for that delay I wouldn't have you. Hang in there. I can only imagine what you are going through. Thankfully, we were in the beginning of the slowdown.

Patty

[robyncre]

OHH...
I second everyone's thought on the everything happens for a reason...to get you sweet girl to you. That said...I think it is just INCOMPETENCE! I walk around life feeling sometimes that everyone is just incompetent! Not that I am perfect, I make mistakes. When I worked however...I paid attention and when I did make a mmistake I apologized and admitted to it.

My daughter worn a fun maryjane tennis shoe to gym class today...it is a tennis shoe just doesn't look like a nike. The substitute teacher looked at it (not close) and made her sit out. I was upset and called the teacher (not knowing it was a sub-DD is 5 so I don't always get the whole picture). I explained the shoe may not look like a typical tennis shoe but the bottoms are rubber soles with traction. Instead of making me happy, apologizing and diffusing the situation...she had to get snitty and argue. Then I got mad and snitty back and asked her to please pay close attention when you are making a 5 yr old sit and watch gym class...her shoe was a tennis shoe. O.K...so if that woman whould just have apologized and said she didn't look close at her shoe I would have probably felt stupid for buying her shoes that are tennis shoes but don't look like tennis shoes, apologized for bothering her, and thanked her for her time. But no.

It all boils down to people not being able to admit mistakes, taking responsibilty and APOLOGIZING! Competence is important...especially when you are daeling with adoption (or a 5 year old that has a Momma bear at home!)

So...Melissa, I am sorry and thanks for letting me vent a bit too! Hee Hee!
Robyn