[BabyBound]

My friends and loved ones,

It is with a heavy heart that I write my final post to you all. My DH and I have finally come to the decision that we must indefinitely postpone our plans for adoption.

My mother has coronary heart disease, one among many of her ailments, and after a lengthy bout of illnesses will no longer be able to work.

My parents divorced over 10 years ago and my mother has been supporting herself as a special education paraprofessional. To supplement her income, she took in one of her sisters and her young daughter as house mates. Unfortunately, sometimes even the people you love can take advantage of you.

My mother is no longer receiving paychecks as she is on leave of absence pending her release so my DH and I are trying to juggle two house hold finances. We have only been in Austin a short while, but we have decided to move back to the city where my mother lives to take better care of her. There she will have access to her doctors and other siblings. It has always been her home and we agree that she would not feel comfortable anywhere else.

I am grateful for the opportunity to be there for my mother, but I honestly feel very inadequate and I am often overwhelmed by the enormity of the emotional and financial demands. I ask for your prayers as you are all in mine.

There are days where in my own self pity, I can not bear knowing that children will have to wait. I have already waited so very long. Our decision hinged between caring for the woman I love and despairing for the child we long for. Forgive me for pouring my sorrows onto you, but you have each been my inspiration, my hope and my towers of strength. I thank you all for all that you have taught me and all that you have shared.

With Love,
Monique

[ahfdragonfly]

God Bless You & good luck.

[ddhuab]

what a difficult and terrible point are at in your life right now.

But how wonderful that you will be able to make your mother's life more comfortable and that you can show her how much you love her. (At times I don't know that such knowledge would be of much solace...)

Good luck to you, and I hope your mother's health and situation improves.

D.

[stephdpenn]

I am sorry for all you are going through right now. I wish you the best of luck and your family will be in my prayers.

Stephanie

[Momof2boysinOH]

Monique,


I'm so sorry for what you're going through. My best to you and your family.

[Adam3170]

Best of luck to you, your husband and mother.

[SuzanneS]

I understand what you are going through. My husband and I had his mother move in with us 7 years ago due to health and financial reasons. I think that you will find when everything settles down and you get into a routine, you will be able to proceed. Things have a way of working out, especially when you put others ahead of yourself. Don't lose heart. You are doing the right thing- Familes take care of each other. You will find that this unselfishness will not be forgotten and you will be blessed in more ways than you can count.

All my best wishes,
Suzanne

[oleson1]

God bless...

[mom3boys]

My prayers are also with you. I have to agree that we must take care of our loved ones. As many of you may know my mother was killed in a tragic traffic accident just before Christmas. She was walking out of church when she was struck and killed by a tractor trailor. Coping with the devastation of losing her has been horrible. I only wish that I had the chance to be with her and take care of her. I don't believe that you will ever regret the decision to take care of your beloved mother. I would hope that when things settle down with your family that you can then consider returning to your adoption. I know that we often feel we are in such a hurry to get the adoption going, but this will happen when it is right. We all owe so much to our mothers and do what we can when they are in need. I'm actually in Florida right now trying to take care of my father. He has no clue how to do anything around the house. It's a challenge teaching him what to do when I'm here alone with the three boys.
I hope that you and your family can sort out these difficulties quickly and return to the adoption. Let us know how things are going with you.
Marjorie

[kimmie11]

My heart goes out to you and your family along with my prayers and best wishes.

[wanttobe]

I'm sorry for your situation. You probably don't want advice, but I believe that the bible states we are to leave our parents and follow Jesus (is HE calling you to adoption). It also states we are to take care of our elderly, but it doesn't say we are to stop living to do so. Pray about this, I'm sure you have done some. But I feel strongly that you and your husband are to live your lives and help your mother, maybe she needs to be in an apt smaller and closer to you. I truely feel that we are to help the widows, I was one. But don't live for them.
Remember if God has called you, walk toward Him and you can't go wrong.
dana

[cungar]

I don't know about anyone else but I get a little uncomfortable with the religious advice that goes on an adoption bulletin board. There are many people here that aren't Christian and I think some people assume everyone is. I don't mind wishing someone prayers but it is a it alienating to see specific references to Jesus etc. Just my 2 cents.

[candace marrin]

Freedom Ofspeech!!! If You Don't Like It, Than Skip Over And Don't Read!!!

[Momof2boysinOH]

Originally Posted by candace marrin

Freedom Ofspeech!!! If You Don't Like It, Than Skip Over And Don't Read!!!

Whoa...let's keep this friendly, shall we?

[candace marrin]

there is nothing unfriendly about my post.