[mnkygrrrl]

I have a question. My husband and I are adopting from China and we can't have children of our own. We have met couples through this process that have the same problems. One couple just told us that they might be pregnant, which is great news, but they are afraid of what might happen with the adoption. I know they are afraid they will lose this baby (they have had miscarriages in the past) so the stress is at a high level for them right now. I wonder if anyone has ever had this happen. Our paperwork says that the process would halt if we ended up pregnant but I did not want to tell them that...
Any information would be great.
Thanks!

[Katia555]

Agencies have had different policies on this issue. With our agency, it used to be so that one could still adopt from China if pregnant. But China has just changed that, we're told. From the time the child is born, one must now wait one year before submitting a dossier to China. I think it's a shame they made this new rule, but I'm afraid that's how it is....

[cfc]

there is much confusion on this issue. China does not mind pregnancy. It is a rule that varies from agency to agency and nothing to do with the CCAA. I personally know 2 people back from adopting in the past couple of months that were pregnant. It depends on the agency not China. China's one year rule is only in regard to being dtc for another child from China.
cfc

[Katia555]

Thanks for this info. The issue is kind of confusing. Our agency told everyone last month to let them know if a pregnancy occurred, as China may request that the adoption be put on hold....Here is some info from another agency (Great Wall): "If you become pregnant while in the adoption process (...) we do want you to be aware of China’s policy. The CCAA believes that a family needs at least 12 months to properly bond with a child before introducing another child into the home. If you become pregnant or complete an adoption while you are in the process of this adoption, please notify your case manager as soon as possible and we can advise and/or advocate on your behalf."

[prechrswife]

I really thought that was an agency-to-agency thing. When we started the process, our agency said that it would not be a problem. Of course, we really don't expect to get pregnant after 3 years of unsuccessful TTC.

[terryb]

I don't know about elsewhere, but here there is a provincial regulation regarding the "spacing". We have a 1 year old baby and started investigating the process when he was 6 months. We were told that the province states we can not bring a second child into the home within one year of the previous child being born/adopted. However, since the paperwork and referral takes such a long time, we were fine to start and he will be at least 18 months of not closer to 20 or 22 when we actually travel to meet our new baby.

I believe that if one becomes preganant in the process, that you must put the adoption on hold. However if you adopt and then immediately become pregnant, I'm not sure what would happen....

[cfc]

IF anyone wants the name of my agency just pm me. They do allow you to adopt if pregnant. I know people have changed to the agency we are using even after being dtc because of being unhappy with the agency they chose. Another option people sometimes don't know is available.
Some people decide to keep trying their infertility procedures while in process. Also some people have adopted from another country and immediately started the process.

[Sean&Shan]

We were told in-no-uncertain terms that it was both an agency and country policy to not allow pregnant couples to adopt.
Our SW basically told us (having miscarried repeatidly) that if we were to get pregnant we could A) not let her know or B) tell her immediatly and see if she could slow the process down while we waited to see if we were "out of the woods".
But, she was very clear that if we were "showing" when we arrived in China, they would not let us leave with a baby.

[mnkygrrrl]

I guess you could just hide it and hope for the best but that would be scary. Only the father could travel too... I don't know what one would do in that situation. Our friends are waiting on referral now and she is pregnant but not sure if she will be able to carry it since she has had so many miscarriages in the past. They have no children of their own so this is SO stressful for them. She said that they still want to adopt since they feel like she is already theirs. So sad...but I guess everything happens for a reason. I just wish I knew what to say.