[Mailbox13]

My wife and I are considering adoption from China. Our son, who was adopted from Russia two years ago, will probably be 4 by the time we actually travel. We are discussing whether or not to take him with us. From a family perspective, I and my wife both think its a great idea to include him in everything. However, we have concerns from a cost stand point (another $1200 or so for plane ticket). Spending 20 or so hours on a plane with a four year old, not to mention coming home with both children, sounds challenging also. Can anyone who has taken their children with them comment? We are also considering he and I staying home to save money while Mommie travels with Grammy.

Can anyone recommend a good agency in Georgia? We are looking at several agencies.

[ROBINVENNER]

I am taking my 10 year old. I think it will be a life changing experience and a 4 year old can remember. I don't know but I am excited about taking him.

[hugs_trees]

We'll hopefully be taking our son, who will be about 10 then. I don't know if I'd take him if he were 4, though. He'd remember, but he'd also be overwhelmed and hard to keep track of. It depends on your child. When my son was 4, it took most of attention to keep him entertained and out of trouble.

The decision for us to take him rests on him. He's afraid to fly, but we're hoping he'll be ok.

[MBA62]

My husband is going to China to get our new daughter. We have two children (ages 5 & 3) and feel it is too big a trip for them. Our SW suggested it would be better if just one of us went. He felt, and we agree, that the trip would be too overwhelming for them and for both of us to be gone for 12+ days and bring home a new baby might cause resentment. We agree, although it is killing me that I won't be there for "gotcha day". I'd say that you know your child best and therefore will make the best decision for your family.