[so_sad_1973]

Hi I was born July 23, 1973 in Kansas City, Missouri at St. Mary's Hospital and delivered by Dr. Youngblood. I was adopted through Catholic Charities when I was 7 days old and my adoptive parents told me my birthmom was "very young" I have no idea what age because very young in 1973 could be different from "very young" in today's standards. My adoptive parents also said that my maternal bio grandparents were strict Catholic and requested that I go to Catholic family. My maternal bio grandfather or great grand father may have been a fighter pilot. My bmom was average height and weight (???) and had long brown hair. I am almost 100% Scandinavian. I am just sad that I feel NO ONE in my birth family is looking for me. I know nothing of my bio father and just wanted to know IS ANY ONE OUT THERE????

[susanasully]

My suggestion is to contact the Catholic Charities agency where your adoption took place. Ask them what post adoption services they offer. They may be able to provide you with non-identifying information from your file, and or offer a private investigator to conduct a search on your behalf. If your birth parent wishes for contact, they will help you make contact

That's how I found my BMom.

Also, remember that back in 1973 (when I was also born), most birthparents were told not to search, that it was wrong for them to look for their children. Or, they feel it should be left up to you to look for them, when you're ready to find them. Do not assume that because no one has actively searched you out, you aren't loved or remembered. I have also heard anecdotally that some Catholic Charities agencies do not allow birth parent searches - they must initiated by the adult adoptee. I don't know for certain that is true, but it's food for thought.

I hope that helps. My BMom didn't look for me either, but she was sure happy when I found her!

Good luck!

[Jackiejdajda]

I made a passive search for my bson.. I did not want to intrude into his life.. I wanted him to want to know me..

There were some things I had to tell him that I wanted him ready to hear..

I agree with contacting Catholic Charities.. You have a right to your non identifying information..

Jackie