[my3cmd]

(1) Are you in the process of adopting, have you already adopted or both? My husband and I are starting fostering classes..... not planning on adoption right now.....but you never knowwhat god will lay in your lap.

(2)Domestic or International?If domestic, foster care or newborn?. If international which country and age/gender?

(3)What state do you live in?
Missouri
(4)Did you use Catholic agency for any part of the adoption?

Catholic Charities in our area does not offer foster classes, I thought it would be wonderful to foster for a catholic adoptive family, but we are going through our county.

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[Ranger1]

We are just starting the process and have decided to go through Catholic Charities in Mn. and will have a domestic adoption. We would like a newborn but put on the application 0-5.
I have a couple questions though. I hope someone can help.

1. They need a letter from our priest. What kind of letter are they looking for? We have a new priest at our parish who doesn't know me from anyone else.
2. Can anyone tell me what the reaction will be to the fact that we have both been married before?
3. I have gone to my church my whole life but didn't get an annulment after my first marriage. Is that going to be a problem?
4 Also, is it going to matter that I didn't get married in the Catholic church the 2nd time? We had just a small ceremony. Just 2 witnesses and my husbands pastor.

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[katieb31323]

1. Adopted twice in the state of New Mexico 10/98 and 6/00

2. Domestic newborns

3. We currently live in Minnesota and are investigating the options...which are not as inviting as NM that is for sure!

4. We used a non profit christian agency in NM

[nawlinsmom]

To Q's mom, I am glad you had a wonderful experience within your own parish, I faced something very different within my own parish. My priest did not want to baptize my son because I am a single parent. However, I did find a priest, and actually it worked out better, in a neighboring parish that baptized my son in the same church that myself and brothers and sisters were baptized in. My answers are as follows:

1) Are you in the process of adopting, have you already adopted or both?
I brought my newborn son home in Sept 2002.

(2)Domestic or International?If domestic, foster care or newborn?. If international which country and age/gender?
It was a domestic adoption used American Adoptions.

(3)What state do you live in?
Live in LA

(4)Did you use Catholic agency for any part of the adoption?
Did not use any catholic agencies for the process

I am still rather new to the boards and am glad to see there are other single Catholic adoptive parents out there. Just wanted to say hello to everyone.

[CeAnne]

Hello! My husband and I are looking to adopt domestically and hopefully a newborn, boy or girl doesn't matter to us. We live in Oregon and we arn't using any part of a catholic agency. We are hoping to adopt indepently using a couple of lawyers near by. We will be happy with what ever child God blesses us with!

[MariposaLoca]

1) Are you in the process of adopting, have you already adopted or both?

In the process of considering a child - getting paperwork done and waiting for records and pictures.

(2)Domestic or International?If domestic, foster care or newborn?. If international which country and age/gender?

International - Taiwan, boy age 5 y.o. currently in foster care.

(3)What state do you live in?

Euphoria? hehe Just kidding, we're in Okinawa!

(4)Did you use Catholic agency for any part of the adoption?

No, our homestudy is through International Families and the adoption itself will be done independently. The orphanage we're working with, however, is Catholic.

[DonnaLynn]

This process started for me close to 13 years ago when my youngest son was born and I was told I could not have anymore children.

I had always wanted a large family 3 boys/3 girls.

Well, my then husband and I had 2 healthy sons, it was the delivery of those boys that almost killed me. We discussed the adoption of at least one little girl. However, that did not happen and that marriage ended.

Since then I graduated college, became Catholic, and remarried a wonderful man with 2 boys and 2 girls.

I now have 6 children- However the Girls are out numbered! LOL!
As we could not have a bio child together adoption became our path. Through the time when he didnt think he wanted to- to when I thought I would have to let it go- to the amazing moment when he said Lets do this- to letting the other children know- to homestudy- profiles-agencies-faciltators-lawyers-websites-books-chats- up down and all around - matches that failed-scams- babies that went home with their moms- and the endless waiting.

Till this week-
This week I found out that there is a expectant mom who has many reasons to place- and has chosen us to love and raise her baby girl to be born in may.

I find the circumstances ironic-
We are catholic
The facilator is catholic
The expectant mom is catholic
The lawyer is catholic/his team is catholic
The hospital where the baby is to be born is catholic

The ironic part is that Catholic Charities turned us down-
First our marrige was some to short for them
and we had to many children already between us.

We are all Gods children -- I thank Him everyday for Blessing us.

[DonnaLynn]

This process started for me close to 13 years ago when my youngest son was born and I was told I could not have anymore children.

I had always wanted a large family 3 boys/3 girls.

Well, my then husband and I had 2 healthy sons, it was the delivery of those boys that almost killed me. We discussed the adoption of at least one little girl. However, that did not happen and that marriage ended.

Since then I graduated college, became Catholic, and remarried a wonderful man with 2 boys and 2 girls.

I now have 6 children- However the Girls are out numbered! LOL!
As we could not have a bio child together adoption became our path. Through the time when he didnt think he wanted to- to when I thought I would have to let it go- to the amazing moment when he said Lets do this- to letting the other children know- to homestudy- profiles-agencies-faciltators-lawyers-websites-books-chats- up down and all around - matches that failed-scams- babies that went home with their moms- and the endless waiting.

Till this week-
This week I found out that there is a expectant mom who has many reasons to place- and has chosen us to love and raise her baby girl to be born in may.

I find the circumstances ironic-
We are catholic
The facilator is catholic
The expectant mom is catholic
The lawyer is catholic/his team is catholic
The hospital where the baby is to be born is catholic

The ironic part is that Catholic Charities turned us down-
First our marrige was some to short for them
and we had to many children already between us.

We are all Gods children -- I thank Him everyday for Blessing us.

[MariposaLoca]

Originally posted by DonnaLynn


The ironic part is that Catholic Charities turned us down-
First our marrige was some to short for them
and we had to many children already between us.

We are all Gods children -- I thank Him everyday for Blessing us.

Too many children already? Is there such thing??

I don't think Mary Ann Kuharski (one of my favorite authors), would think so. LOL She's a Catholic mother who's written quite a few books and speaks out in favor of adoption, particularly international adoption. She and her husband have 13 children total, 6 of them are "airplane" kids, and 7 are "tummy" kids. (I hope I got the numbers right.) She has children of all races/skin colors. I guess no one told her she had too many.

[DonnaLynn]

My daddy is #10 of 13 kids- (non-catholic family) they just had kids till they stopped getting pregnant back then I guess.

There is not set number - I think it just turns out to be as many as you can handle the the work and money for.


However the rewards - in sticky kisses, crayola walls, refridgertor art, endless driving, concerts, events, teachers, grades, "I didnt do its", to can I have some more, I dont like that, illnesses, broken bones, driving lessons, swing sets, beach days, camping, art projects, lost shoes, running noses, break your neck hugs, potty stops every 15 mins., and so on and on and of course the LAUNDRY!!!!!

My daughters mother flies in on the 18th to stay until the baby is born. I hope in the time we have together I can give her some of the faith, trust, hope, and love that are missing in her life.

That we will always be friends.

[amcampbell]

Hello All,

We have been trying to adopt domestically for the past 10 months with many ups and downs. We are Catholic and will raise our children as such. We have a 7yo biological daughter who is sweet and loving. We really enjoy being parents and can't wait to add to our family through adoption. Best of luck to everyone in their situations.

[my3cmd]

my prayers are with you donna......what a wonderful story!

angela Ü

[Anigel]

1) Are you in the process of adopting, have you already adopted or both?

The very early stages. We need to build the addition before we will have the required bedroom. I'm wanting to contact an agency and maybe get the classes underway, before the addition is done, that way we can go straight to the home study.

(2)Domestic or International?If domestic, foster care or newborn?. If international which country and age/gender?

Domestic Foster aged 5-12, up to one additional sib.

(3)What state do you live in?

Florida

(4)Did you use Catholic agency for any part of the adoption?

Haven't contacted anyone yet, will be discussing with hubby tonight.

I did see a catholic agency in the phone book (has anyone else noticed that figuring out who to call is hard? The phone book wasn't much help so I ended up back here on the internet), but I suppose I had fears about the "potential denial". Maybe I'm wrong but wouldn't it be more expensive? Even with the "promised" extra speed of a private agency, my husband and I are a little afraid of the potiential costs.

Our background: No children, my husband is 33, but I'm only 23. I'm hoping the addition will be done this summer sometime, and then I'll 24, so here's praying. I've figured that it will be a year on the homestudy (that's what I've read, and I don't want to build myself up for disappointment).

[Peggy]

There is no cost for adopting an older child from the state. There are private agencies that contract with the state and usually there is no cost there also. Go ahead and look up Social Services on the internet for your area, and they should have links....also

http://www.nacac.org/howtoadopt.html

is also a good link for outlining the way to start. Bethany, Lutheran and Jewish family services also provide adoption services, and you do not neccessarily need to be the same religion, (though this can vary from state to state).

[dmrmickey]

(1) Are you in the process of adopting, have you already adopted or both?

I am the proud mommy of a 7 month old girl! Started process 6/21/00 and she was born 6/21/03, three years later to date! Became a mom 2 days after she was born, picked her up from the hospital, finalized within 30 days and baptized 8/10/03.

(2)Domestic or International?If domestic, foster care or newborn?. If international which country and age/gender?

Domestic adoption, and a newborn angel.

(3)What state do you live in?

PA - Used an agency in CA and my daughter was born in AR.

(4)Did you use Catholic agency for any part of the adoption?

No, I checked into Catholic agency in this area along with friends who were adopting. Seemed to be a delay in setting up orientation meetings. Waited weeks for a return call. Plus, my friends were already a family of 4 with 2 children already adopted and was told the dad was a health risk because he was 50 lbs. overweight !! However, my church is very supportive of the adoption ! Thanks for the roll call, great to hear everyones stories!