[Geekgurl]

NCP is not active in the children's lives as far as day to day care.

She does visit every other weekend (mostly) and sometimes cancels. She does not speak to the children except during her visitation time.

She does not pay child support, and is currently 16K in arrears. She has suggested to us that I adopt the children, because she doesnt care to persue a relationship with them any longer.

The children are 7 and 4, and I have been a primary caretaker for them since SS (now 4) was 9 months old. They are very bonded with me.

Can she revoke adoption once she agree's. What kind of papers/timeframe are we looking at to file all of the papers for me to adopt the kids?

Thanks,
Geeki

[AJBs Mom]

It sounds simpler than my case. She can not appeal once she signs the consent forms. There are rules to getting the consent forms signed. They must be signed in front of specific people. You are still looking at at least 6 months for the adoption though. You still have to go through the background check and the termination hearing. You must file the paperwork with the local court. The courts have that paperwork for you and you fill it out and file it. If she changes her mind you can always offer to take the 16K dollars for child support away and she may be happier without the debt. ALso if she is of no risk to the children and you want her to still see the children after the adoption you can arrange for that. So if she is willing for the adoption right now I would try and go for it. Maybe she is just feeling like it is over already anyways. Or maybe she is tired of paying child support and wants it to all go away. No matter why she makes that decision it is actually showing she does care about the children enough to realize maybe she needs to give them up. SO just relax and do what you think is in the best interest of the children. It will all work out. You sound like you have a good case.

[Kallen330]

Once a consent is signed it cannot be withdrawn without court approval.

Hope this helps.

[adopt101]

If you read the adoption papers, once consent has been given and the adoption granted, it can never be reversed until the adopted child reaches the age of 18 and they choose to do so. Niether you nor the birth parent can ever reverse it.