[rtd0078]

OMG, you have to hear this.

the kids attorney is so against me. my fs and is brothers have been in different homes since Janunary
of this year and in DCFS social worker reports states their no bond between the brothers.

Well guest what he knows my de facto hearing is next week. The kids attorney just call me today let me know he wants me and the other foster mother to bring the kids to a doctor so they can due a bonding study????

can he do this? and why now?

I throught he needs the judge approval to do this?

[mamachell]

I did PM you but I'm also thinking: does your fs and his brother have the same attorney? If so, this is starting to look like a conflict of interest. I would see if your fs can be assigned his own attorney and I'd have your own attorney bring this issue up. I say it's a conflict because your son's best interests and his brother's may be different. It may be best for each child to stay where they are. However, you may need to consider that unless there is a really outstanding reason like violence or sexually acting out, a judge may want to keep these brothers together. Is there a reason they aren't placed together now?

[BrandyHagz]

Why wouldn't you want to do this? If there is no bond, then you have nothing to worry about and the bonding study will back you up.

If there is a bond and the bonding study shows that, then the children should have every chance possible to foster a relationship - whatever that looks like.

[rtd0078]

The foster mother that has the brothers she did a 7 notice on my foster child becuase she could not handle all three and plus the oldest asked if my foster child could be the one to leave since he was the one starting all the touble

[rtd0078]

The only reason why this kids attorney is doing this is becuase we are filing De facto and that hearing is next week also the next hearing which will be for 3 hours for the case is at the end of this month and the judge is making a descision.

[excited2adoptsoon]

Everyone involved in our case did not want siblings placed together either. But my child was a baby and really had no bond with any siblings.

The reasoning for them to not make such an effort to place them together made total sense to me. The other 5 siblings had lived in the care of abusive parents. All 5 kids had emotional disorders, some severe. As awful as it sounds, social services did not want my "new" baby to be mixed up with children that had so many problems and needed so much attention.

After I read some court reports on issues with the siblings, I agreed with the workers.

But I would still love for my child to have a relationship with them, but living in the same household was bound to have a negative impact on her.