[caraincardiff]

Hi Everyone,

I talked to our social worker. We will be having a telling on the 14-month-old girl some time this week to hear the "nitty-gritty." The little girl is named Miriam (her mom's name). She was living with a cousin, and the cousin up and moved back to Egypt with out telling anyone!

The maternal grandmother is in the picture, but is very "inappropriate" according to our social worker in terms of her behavior/drama.

Her father is caucasian--and they are trying to find out more about him. Miriam's mother is "low-functioning" and doesn't get parenting. At her visits, she keeps asking if her daughter has been adopted yet.

Okay, so how do I prepare myself and my husband for the telling? I know that 99% of kids in adoption come from some very ugly circumstances. How did you handle it?

Thanks! Cara

[carlychan]

Is she going to be a foster placement? Has TPR happened yet? When we were placed with our kids the first telling wasn't that much. At the beginning they often don't know much about the family or kids. At the end (before adoption) you will have an adoption telling and you will have more info. I don't know where the child (or you) are in the process.