[rtd0078]

Hello All,

I have an question, my husband and I got her first placement in May. dcfs cw took our foster/adopt child from another foster home becuz she did not want to adopt her and the tpr is coming up in August. well our foster/adopt child been in foster care for 11 months. and bio-mom was missing for the first 6 months. bio-mom pop back up at the last hearing and they gave her 9 hour per week of weekly moniter visit which she has change them and every week its a different story. bio-mom says she going to appreal the tpr. bio-mom is saying she going to all her classes but she still don't have anywhere to live or a car. dcfs cw said she is not attending any classes. what should I do? and is this normal? the court rewarded bad behavior when she got them visits.

[millie58]

bio mom has to attend classes; she doesn't need a car but I think she has to have somewhere to live. They may not do TPR yet but she'll have to prove herself. that being said, I had a 14 yo who had 2 sisters also in care. Housing was bio mom's only issue and DSS wouldn't TPR. Supposedly, it's the law.

[rtd0078]

Its normal for dcfs to move fd and they are planning on giving bio-mom back her kids. dcfs is having the other foster mother that got the sibling do a adopt homestudy. dcfs and the bio-mom are not evening talking.bio-mom is paying for her own classes. since we had fd bio-mom been canceling some of her visitation

[Yash]

Originally Posted by rtd0078

Its normal for dcfs to move fd and they are planning on giving bio-mom back her kids. dcfs is having the other foster mother that got the sibling do a adopt homestudy. dcfs and the bio-mom are not evening talking.bio-mom is paying for her own classes. since we had fd bio-mom been canceling some of her visitation

No DCF wouldn't move the child if they felt re-unification was on the books. They are marking every missed visit, every late visit, the cancellation on mom's part. They are building their case also.

The judge could give her more time since she's trying, but then again maybe not. I was told once that in order to appeal the parents have to hire their own lawyer. If she does appeal, it can drag the case out for another 6 - 8 months and the visits could continue during this period.

Best of luck!

[mamachell]

To me I think they are actually thinking the birthmom will be TPR'd and do want to move the child to an adoptive home so there won't be more transition later. Plus, they won't tpr and create a legal orphan. They need to have an adoptive placement (even of a relative) to tpr otherwise, they'll hold off tpr until a permanent placement is in place.

They also don't want to deny birthmom visitation because birthmom can appeal based on not receiving proper services (visitation is one of those services).

I know it's crazy and I'm still in the process too but hang in there.