[mamachell]

Hello all,

I just found out that the birthmom of our fd is currently in jail. I don't know a lot of details but her bail amount is kind of high so I think it may be serious. This is the second time she' been in jail since we began. I just found out through searching public records (in fact, I don't thind the CW knows yet).

I definately want to adopt my fd if her mom can't complete her plan. I'm just wondering if this latest event makes my case stronger or not? My worry is that everything will just be on hold until she gets out or worse that I'll have to take the baby to jail for visits. I guess it will also depend on how long she is sentenced for.

Any help appreciated. Please let me know if your child's birthparent went to jail and how it effected your case.

Thank you.

Mamachell

[mommytoEli]

it depends on ALOT...but just being in jail won't really hinder her case unless she'll be in for a LONG time (think YEARS). 3 of my kiddos have had parents incarcerated, and if anything, it gave them more time. some kiddos had jail visits. not my favorite. even my kiddos whose parent was supposed to be in until they were 18 managed to drag out the case nearly 2 years....all from jail. however, every judge, cw, and case is different, so it really just depends. i know, vague, but true.

[excited2adoptsoon]

I'm sure it depends on a lot. My past FD had both parents in jail for 9 months. It simply gave them HIGHER chances to get their child back. SW said because services were offered in jail, they are MUCH more likely to succeed, as there's not too much to do in jail. They took parenting classes in jail, etc. They also were considered "clean" during that time because they couldn't do drugs in jail. Lastly, it delayed everything for us. We had our FD 13 months before she returned to them.

Originally Posted by mamachell

Hello all,

I just found out that the birthmom of our fd is currently in jail. I don't know a lot of details but her bail amount is kind of high so I think it may be serious. This is the second time she' been in jail since we began. I just found out through searching public records (in fact, I don't thind the CW knows yet).

I definately want to adopt my fd if her mom can't complete her plan. I'm just wondering if this latest event makes my case stronger or not? My worry is that everything will just be on hold until she gets out or worse that I'll have to take the baby to jail for visits. I guess it will also depend on how long she is sentenced for.

Any help appreciated. Please let me know if your child's birthparent went to jail and how it effected your case.

Thank you.

Mamachell

[mommytoEli]

Originally Posted by excited2adoptsoon

I'm sure it depends on a lot. My past FD had both parents in jail for 9 months. It simply gave them HIGHER chances to get their child back. SW said because services were offered in jail, they are MUCH more likely to succeed, as there's not too much to do in jail. They took parenting classes in jail, etc. They also were considered "clean" during that time because they couldn't do drugs in jail. Lastly, it delayed everything for us. We had our FD 13 months before she returned to them.

i totally agree with this! it is something to do, your attorney comes to you and can actually find you for your meeting. you are less likely to do drugs. you can attend parenting classes. i will say that i have 2 kids from one parent. parent was out for the first one...never made a meeting, never passed a screening, never attended a hearing. for the 2nd she was in jail, she made every meeting bc she was locked up and the atty came to her, she had less access to drugs, so she was clean, and she was transported to every hearing. i also think she was probably thinking clearer than she was with the first one, since she was not in a constant state of high. in the end, it was still not enough, but it did drag out our case through appeals for another 5 months.

not what you want to hear, i know.