[Potrismom]

You are very fortunate with your two little ones! I have one bio son and have been certified to fost-adopt for three years through an agency. From my limited experience it all depends what kind of a social worker you get assigned. We had a wonderful little girl that we absolutely fell in love with and wanted to adopt in our home for one week. Our agency had assured us that she would be up for adoption and then one week later the county worker came to take her and we were absolutely devastated. At that point we had befriended another county worker who we met through a young mother (17 years old) who we had in our home for just a month (because our agency begged us to help out). Approximately 2 weeks after they took that lovely little girl (she was only two) this county social worker called us to ask us if we would be interested in adopting a child some of her clients wanted to give up for adoption (through an independent adoption). We said yes and our daughter was born on Christmas day and we brought her home two days later. We have had to pay an attorney and it has been pricey but totally worth it because now it is just a matter of time til we can adopt her formally as the parents relinquished their rights before she was even born. We got to meet her birthparents (they have a lot of problems but I believe are good people) and I will treasure the memories I have of the time we spent together. Then a week ago our agency called us to tell us that the two year old girl was no longer going to be reunified with the mother or any of her relatives and would we be interested in adopting her. It will not be an easy process because the little girl has been moved around so much in the last six months that the court has ordered that she stay with the foster family she is currently with until November and that all we can do is take her out on visits. We still do not know all the details and are trying to arrange a meeting with everyone involved. We do NOT want to have the same thing happen again where she is in our home for a while and then they just yank her out again. We will SEE!

[kelceesmom]

Lupe,
I am very late in finding this thread and I want to say that you are a strong person and you had the will to put your family first. God has a plan for you as you well know. We look for answers in our answers but that doesn't always happen. We have to rely on our faith and strength to get us thru the difficult times.

[JC10]

I think if the time is right you wouldnt question it at all? There are so many parents waiting for that special child who are positive and read to adopt now. I think you're a wonderful mom for thinking of your daughter and how it will affect her. I can tell you though I adopted my two girls, ages 3 & 4 within a year of each other and they are now absolutely inseparable, I can't imagine them not having each other. Whatever you choose, I wish you all the best, you're obviously a very thoughtful & loving mommy!