[JAMEST57]

Hi, my name is James T. I am 49 years old, single Christian male.

I was licensed in Yolo county CA and now live in Siskiyou county. I have had a few children in Yolo and am in the process of gettting my license transferred right now.

I have had 3 home visits thus far and was told I might have as many as 3 more yet before everything is completed.

Pretty much everything rolled over from the other county but yet the visits keep coming.

I am interested in foster/adopt and had called the adoption agency for N. CA and was basically told that "single men" do not get matches with kids to adopt and if they do it is rare.

I felt very discriminated against and hurt by this. I have so much love to give to some kids. I have so much to teach them, to share with them.

A friend told me I should investigate Lillyput for my next placement and just be done with this other agency I am dealing with.

Any men on here or do any of you women on here know of any men who were discriminated against due to the fact they are single?

I am beside myself. I never ran across anything like this before. I was told that the kids were 1st in the minds of this agency and what was best for them. I figured that isn't a "perminent home" in the childs best interest? I qualify, I already went through the foster process.

PS I am wanting to take in sibs, boys only, 7-18, I prefer teens.

Any thoughts, suggestions or comments on this. Thanks.

[frida_94601]

Hi James, I am in Ca as well, I am not liking my agency that much either. I am a single parent as well. I wanted to change agencies I just dont know if I have the heart to go through all this mess again. I am certified looking to adopt 2-11yrs old. Its really hard I feel soo sad at times. Still dolding on though.

[JAMEST57]

frida_96401 have you had any foster children placed with you from the agency your with now? Good luck on your decision. I know it is not easy, we been through so much getting where we are now.

[la vida loca]

I'm in Yuba County and I get calls for placement averaging about once every seven to ten days. I'm listed as fost/adopt but it wasn't until I took a respite placement that I showed up on their radar. Have you considered doing respite care so that they can get to know you better?

[frida_94601]

Hello James & Vida Loca,

I had one emergency placement two months ago by accident they said it was do to a new caseworker, I am on respite care, but they always call me at home. So I have missed two respite oppurtunities. It is very sad, I met with the supervisor last month alongside my case worker and I just feel discouraged by them. There are no support groups for single parents either, its very hard to deal with all the emotions that I go through, I feel like I am not good enough? I have made so many changes already, relationships, financial stability, moving in to a bigger home, tieng lose ends..well I am sure you know the drill, how are you both able to adopt through all this changes and still patiently wait?

[JAMEST57]

When I was in Yolo I had done respite plus an emergency care child. He was a runaway last two places he was at, but he did not run when he was with me.

I going to try this agency until School starts and see how they do, there is another agency, so I pray that one or the other will have me.

I'm still trying to get my foster license transferred at this moment.

[la vida loca]

I've never transferred from one agency to another but I imagine it's about as much fun as the original homestudy. Hang in there!

[JAMEST57]

Yes, it is. I was with a county last time, piece of cake, this is an agency and I have had three visits, waiting for the 4th and I know the 5th, after that...I am not sure, if they soon don't hurry up, I'll have to take my CPR and 1st aid all over again.

[Momoflele&bernie]

Well i live in Sacramento County and the Agency that I am with was pretty good a placing me with my first set of siblings. However i am looking to take in a child under two..i have been waiting for like 2 months ..no luck ....i wish all of you the best of luck..