[alliweave]

Female born on August 8, 1974, 11:59 pm, at Valley Medical Center of Fresno, Agency was Children's Home Society.

To my biological parents,

I don't know if you will ever find this... but if you do, I want you to know that I am so thankful you made the decisions and sacrifices you did (especially with what bmom went through) to give me (what I think was) a "better life." Please know, that while I don't know what type of life I would have had with you, you definitly DID give me to a wonderful family and life.

I heard from CHS today that neither of you have submitted a consent for contact form. And that's okay. I respect your decision. And because of that I will not attempt moving further, as I don't want to interfere in your life and your family. I understand they may not know.

But I want to say thank you (bmom) for choosing my family - you made an amazing choice. I have had some fabulous experiences in life, and I want you to know. I feel so lucky to have the family that I do. You placed me in extremely loving hands.

I'm 31 now, never married, no children of my own (well, a 4 1/2 year old kitty!). I have lived alone and supported myself for 6 years (the first few years away from home living in San Francisco was a bit costly!). I have been a pharmaceutical rep for the past 5 years. I am quite independent, strong (although emotional with that at times - or is it "passionate?"), and can hold my own (from my fully equiped tool box to putting chains on tires). I have an older sister (4 years) who is also adopted. She has two kids that I adore! My family is very close... even the 3 hour drive is too far for my mom sometimes.

I am very fortunate to say that I think I received most of the good genes between you, as I am 5'7" (tall for a couple 5'2" and 5'9"), have lots of long brown hair (well, brown in the fall and winter!), blue eyes & fair skin (could have done with the olive skin though bfather!). Not too athletically inclined, but I did do the stats for my high school baseball team! I went to Fresno State, joined Delta Gamma sorority, studied abroad in London for a bit, and graduated with a BS in Business. I am currently preparing for applying to Graduate business schools for my MBA, possibly double emphasis on International Business. Um... I was baptized Catholic in 2004 (raised non-denominational) in San Francisco.

My friends tease me for the "101 hobbies" that I have (and random things I do) as I like to try almost everything. I have bungee jumped (3x), hangglided, and tried "canyoning," all in Switzerland during my Europe backpack trip - post college. No sky diving for me though - not THAT crazy. I am learning to surf, like skiing, like horseback riding, rowing and Bikram Yoga (would love to be certified as an instructor). I LOVE to travel, love photography, and decorating. My dream is to be on Saturday Night Live, as I like making people laugh, usually at my own expense. I love getting all dressed up fancy for black tie events, and love putting on a cap, going to a sports bar or game and having some beers!

This all may seem silly, but I just want you to know who I have become because of your decisions, and hopefully, reinforce in your heart that your decision was best. I have great respect and admiration for you. I cannot even imagine the sadness and pain you have experienced. I understand that my you, bmom, went through a majority of the pregnancy pretty much alone (is that why I battle depression?), and at 18 nonetheless. It takes a courageous 18 year old to do what you did. While I am so thankful you made huge sacrifices to give me life, I don't know if I could have done what you did.

I didn't submit my consent for contact form to find you and have a relationship with you, but mainly because I want to see you, maybe meet you, see who I might resemble, who and where you are and have been in life. I want to say thank you so very much for your sacrifices, and let you know that I have had a great life thus far. I've definitly had my share of personal challenges and battles, but I also received your genes of strength to endure them.

So, if you think there is a connection, or know someone that could possibly be connected... thank you from the bottom of my heart - thank you. I don't have to know your real names or where you live, but I would love a few emails back and forth communicating a little, and maybe even some photographs - as I am so curious as to what you look like! I promise that I will not cross any boundaries of discomfort and force anything neither of us are uncomfortable with. I would love to hear from you.

Allison

[dleapfrog2]

Allison,
Please do not get discouraged.A lot of bmoms do not know that they can search or they are afraid of disrupting YOUR life.I am a bmom and I never knew that I could look for my daughter until I got this computer.Sending you some info in private.

Deb
reunited bmom